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BEFORE YOU GO TO MATCH, MY STORY…

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I truly did find my love on Match.com. I was at a Christmas party a few years back and a friends mom was talking about Match.com and all of the interesting men she had met as a result of being on the site. She hadn’t met anyone serious, but had met a few men that intrigued her.

Left alone with my laptop later that night, I thought I would go on and look at the men, see what I thought. At the time, the site would not let me on without signing up. I wasn’t thrilled to sign up, but I did it. I was curious!

I had to tweak my profile, change a setting here or there to get the desired results, but once I did, I liked what I saw. For instance, the body types you have to pick for yourself seemed a little too narrow for my taste. I selected “curvy”, because I am. But, apparently in online dating code, that means “fat”. So I changed it to slim and athletic, which I also am, and found I was matched with more appropriate men.

Remember, this happened at a Christmas party. By the 2nd week of January, I went out with Roland and our wedding date is set for 10-10-10.

I am so very happy and wish I could share this experience with everyone. It is a special thing when your find the level of compatibility online and then meet in person.

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Seducing Mr Right- Deception in Online Dating

A recent article shared conclusions from researchers at UC Berkeley’s School of Information. The paper “Self-presentation and Deception in Online Dating” found pretty much what we’ve known all along.

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• Men are more likely to make the first move, sending that first “wink” or email. They’re quicker to respond to women’s queries.
• Women responded to only 16 percent of messages, and they take longer to respond.
• Both genders seek partners similar to themselves in age, education, height, religion, politics and views about smoking.
• Women are less open-minded, at least regarding ethnicity. They’re twice as likely as men to specify that they’re seeking someone of their own ethnicity.
• Both sexes tell white lies. Men say they are a half-inch taller. Women shave five pounds off their weight.
• Women’s profiles related more to home, sex and emotions; men’s profiles talked about work.
• A photograph is the dominant predictor of whether men will connect. Women value narratives in profiles in addition to pictures.

Some of this information was garnered by content analysis of people’s actual online behavior. They tracked people’s actions (who initiated contact, how long it took to respond, words in profiles). But they must have interviewed daters to get the info on what was attractive in a profile, their true height and how much they really weighed.

In another study reported in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, published by a team from Harvard Business School, Boston University and MIT, the conclusion was that less is more in how much is shared in a profile. Their reasoning: when a lot of information is exchanged, more differences are exposed and there is less attraction.

Now this conclusion I found interesting. I suppose it depends on what you are aiming to get out of the online dating experience. Personally, I was interested in meeting someone online BECAUSE of the opportunity to get to know similarities and differences without the pressure of the relationship, regardless of how early into the relationship we were ( like meeting someone at a bar and they start to like everything you like and hate everything you hate), and make decisions based on that information.

But, if you are dating online for the end result of dating, just the action, well, I can see you would want to give as little information as possible while still remaining interesting.

That seems to be such a waste of time to me. I would so much rather eliminate people that are clearly incompatible ( and I hope they would do the same to me) than date despite the core differences and try to make it work anyway.

I speak from experience. Marrying someone who doesn’t like who you really are is no fun for anyone.

Anyway, what do you think of these two studies? Anything here but common sense?

Mark August 10, 2010 at 7:58 am

I never liked putting a photo up. It bothered me to think of people I know possibly seeing my pic on an online dating site. I was always fine with exchanging pics after a woman and I had emailed a couple of times.

And I agree that there is a balance between not enough info and too much. The real problem I see is that people say the same things over and over again.

“I’m not into playing games.”

“I want to be friends first.”

“I am just as comfortable staying home and cuddling in front of the TV as I am in going out in my little black dress.”

“I like to go to museums and wineries.”

“My friends say I’m funny.”

“I like to go out and have a good time and laugh a lot.” Really? You enjoy laughing? At long last my search is over! I’ve found another who enjoys laughing!

When I read things like that above, what I’m really reading in nothing. It says nothing to me other than the woman lacks imagination. What I really want to see is some spark of intelligence in the profile. I don’t care if she likes museums. I do care if she tells me what she likes about museums — what’s her favorite exhibit she’s seen? Is there an art movement she especially likes, and why?

What a good profile does is convey a sense of the person.

I also think women respond to fewer messages because women get more messages. Men pursue. Women choose.

Seducing Mr Right- Top 10 Dating Mistakes You Need to Avoid

Have you watched Millionaire Matchmaker? It’s a show where a “matchmaker” sets up millionaire men who, it appears, cannot find dates on their own with attractive women.

At first glance, you think, “You’ve got to be kidding.” But watch the show. The funny thing is, you can nearly immediately figure out why they are single. There is typically some glaring flaw that the single millionaire doesn’t see in himself. As the viewer, it’s easy to see. The dating mistakes men make…

But that’s the benefit of NOT being the one on display. It’s easy to see the flaws in others, but we live with ourselves. We know why we do the things we do. We have REASONS why we do the things we do.

And sometimes these relationship mistakes are stopping us from getting what we really want.

In this case, Mr. Right.

The Top 10 Dating Mistakes to Avoid on Your First Date…(or many dates, actually)

1. Put Your Cell Away: And don’t look at it Everyone is very busy these days and he carved time out of his schedule to give you his attention (and probably buy you a meal). Give him the gift of your full attention. It’s incredibly rude to check your texts and voice mails, let alone take a call. It might not seem like it when YOU are the one on the phone, but let him do it to you and trust me, it’s going to be irritating.
2. The Ex-Factor: Um. Seems obvious, but you want to at least APPEAR available. If you go on about your ex you do yourself a disservice, actually several. Regardless of how obvious it seems to you that your ex is a jerk and did everything wrong, some of your blame WILL be obvious to the other person. We are all flawed and it’s fine once someone knows you enough to give you room for your screw-ups. But a first date is “best foot forward” time. Save the crazy for later. Secondly, it will look like he is still front of mind enough that he is your topic of conversation. Not what the new guy want to think.
3. Eat: Let your appetite be reflective of your appetite. Here’s why. Sensuality is wrapped up with lots of things, physicality, flirting, eye contact….food and drink are two on the list. I am NOT saying binge and PROVE you can match him drink for drink. I AM saying, be real. It works in your favor.
4. Drunk = Loss of Respect: Don’t think it’s “cool”. It’s the opposite. They MIGHT see you again, but you will never be in the “serious” category you will be in the “lay” category. A first date fumble like that is likely unrecoverable. And don’t throw up in his car. Also not hot.
5. Don’t Leave Your Brain at Home: Playing dumb is not sexy and adorable. It is dumb. Confidence is sexy. Bright is sexy. Humor is sexy. Oh my god I am so helpless and stupid show me everything because I am so frail is just pathetic. Pathetic is not sexy either. There are better ways to get attention. Be yourself and contribute to the experience. You’ll both have a better time.
6. My Children Are My Life: Really? Then stay home. You are not auditioning for mother. You are auditioning for position of  life partner. Let me point out that your kids are in your daily life for at most 20 years. If you are planning on living 80, you may want to pay attention to your significant other. There is no need to explain what the mother/child relationship entails. Everyone’s pretty up on that. Going out of your way to say, “Best case scenario, you’re coming in second.” doesn’t feel great to anyone. Leave the kids at home.
7. Be on Time: Waiting is painful. Again, does not look cool, fashionable, or anything good. You know what it looks like? Looks like you’re late and can’t get your cuss together to be on time. If you’re going for the whole flaky vibe, late works.
8. High Maintenance: Not good. What does that mean? It means don’t be difficult, rude, demanding. Don’t order the most expensive thing on the menu. Don’t be disappointed if he takes you for tacos. Don’t ask him what kind of car he drives. Do you really want him worrying about whether or not he can afford to take you out again? It’s your job to give yourself the lifestyle you want, not his. Don’t make him feel the financial burden of YOU on a date! Don’t go on about all of the amazing places other men have taken you/things they have bought you/how much $ they made/expensive cars you like and MY GOD don’t ask him to buy you anything. Seriously.
9. Nobody Wants to Sex Up Frump Girl/If You’re Showing Vag You’re Trying too Hard: So there is a lot of gray area in between the black and the white. Let’s see…be sexy, for sure. But UNDERSTATED sexy is best. What does that mean? Or better, what does that look like? It looks classy, but fitted, a little short, ABSOLUTELY high heels (this is not a PTA meeting), your BEST makeup including a smokey eye if you can do it right. I means you took care to get ready. It means you FEEL smokin’ hot (but not slutty).
10. Let Him Be the MAN: Aggressive and dominant don’t work on a first date (unless you’re being paid for it, but that’s a whole different blog). You might be Ms. Ball-buster career woman at work, and god knows it takes toughness to be a single mother running a household, but you are NOT at work and no one is negotiating their interest rate tonight. Be feminine and let him be masculine. Allow the process to flow naturally. Don’t steer it or push it. Don’t take the lead in a kiss. Don’t ask for a second date or even hint about it (it’s not subtle, it’s really not). You might offer to pay for your portion of the meal, but only offer once (he will 99% of the time decline), then graciously accept. Be thankful.

Have fun, be yourself, be polite, be thankful. Even if you don’t find that amazing spark, you will meet a lot of interesting people in your dating experience and your life will be richer for it.

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Wow. What a drag for the people who were using the site to really find someone. Can you imagine “flirting” with someone online who was nonexistent? Simply manufactured by the agency?

Don’t we have enough to worry about in online dating?!

Online dating agency ‘created fake profiles’
HELEN WESTERMAN
November 6, 2009 – 1:32PM

An online dating agency created fake profiles and used them to “flirt” with registered users, Australia’s consumer watchdog has revealed.

Redhotpie.com.au, which describes itself as a dating site for “singles and swingers”, has been accused of misleading conduct by the Australian Competition and Consumer Commission, for creating and publishing fictional profiles on its website.

The profiles were used to send “flirt” messages to registered users. The site claims to have more than 1.6 million members and features dating advice from author Bessie Bardot.

But the ACCC said the operators of redhotpie,Mark Semaan and Maxwell James McGuire, falsely represented that members could socialise with – and potentially meet – every profile that was viewable on the site, “when it was not the case”.

It does not reveal how many profiles may be fake.

A directions hearing has been set for December 10 in Perth’s Federal Court. Source: www.theage.com.au

Not too far behind is a site that personally I love (because it worked for me!), match.com. But I can say I see the point of those who are complaining.

Match.com Posts Fake Profiles, Man Sues For Humiliation

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One of the reasons some people are wary of online dating is that people tend to stretch the truth when describing themselves. Perhaps you can build up a BS detector for embellishments of electronic personalities, but what if the dating prospects were not even real?

That’s what happened to New Yorker Sean McGinn, who’s suing dating site Match.com for keeping around profiles of former users so that it would look like the site had far more romantic prospects than it did. McGinn is suing over deception, because he sent out many emails to profiles that were essentially dead. Match.com caused him “humiliation and disappointment,” and he wants to stop Match from hurting the feelings of singles “who feel rejected when their e-mails get no reply.”

For some people, it’s a big leap to start online dating, and knowing that you may be signing up for even more rejection (however genuine) is a total deterrent.

So aside from McGinn, I know plenty of people with horror stories about love and the laptop. What’s your best and worst online dating story?

I am a big fan of online dating. I think it is the most efficient way to find a match more compatible than you can find in a bar, grocery store, at work….

But these companies need to be careful about their practices. It’s easy enough to have your heart broken!

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