Seducing Mr. Right

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Seducing Mr Right may be the goal, but sometimes you have to get rid of Mr Wrong.

If you have the uneasy feeling that your husband is having an extramarital affair, Valentine’s Day is the ideal time to confirm what you suspect. The Valentine’s Day gift he gives his mistress or the gift he receives from her in return, can provide you with proof of his infidelity.

If your husband has a lover he’s certain to buy her a Valentine’s Day gift; whether he receives one in return or not. This could prove to be his undoing. An observant wife can find valuable clues about her husband’s infidelity, if she knows what to look for and where to look.

He Has to Give His Mistress a Gift

A husband can get away with giving his wife a last-minute card and a hastily purchased box of chocolates. But it’s almost a sure bet that on Valentine’s Day, he’ll give his mistress a special gift. And it won’t be a cheap token of his affection. If he wants to stay in her good graces (and in her bed) he has to buy an impressive gift.

A Valentine’s Day gift suitable for a mistress will cost a cheating husband a nice piece of change. Regardless of whether he pays by cash, check or charge, there will usually be a paper trail. If you know what to look for and where to look, you’ll find evidence of his spending somewhere.

What to Look For

Have there been any suspicious withdrawals from your bank accounts? Check the time period shortly before or after Valentine’s Day. What about unexplained ATM withdrawals around this time?

Check your credit card statements for the month of February. Call customer service and ask them to give you the most recent charges made on the account. Be alert for charges made at jewelry stores, women’s specialty stores, or boutiques, florists, day spas, restaurants and the like. Pay special attention to any charges made on February 14th.

Check your husband’s wallet, pockets, backpack, or briefcase for charge slips or store receipts. If you find evidence of gift items which you didn’t personally receive, it should sound a warning bell. If your husband didn’t give the gifts to you, who did he give them to?

Where Else to Look

Check various places in and around your home for hidden gifts — under the bed, in the back of a file cabinet or dresser drawer, on the back of the closet floor, or on a seldom used shelf.

Don’t forget to search the car too. Look underneath the seat, in the trunk, in the glove compartment and in the tire well.

If you find a hidden gift, don’t jump to conclusions unless it’s obvious the gift is not for you (too large, too small, a color or style that he knows you wouldn’t wear, or has another woman’s name attached).

If Valentine’s Day passes and you haven’t received the hidden gift (but it’s now gone), then it’s obvious that he gave the gift to someone else. Make it your business to find out who.

Carol’s Story

Shortly before Valentine’s Day, Carol found a box in her husband’s sock drawer containing a diamond and sapphire ring. She said nothing because she didn’t want to spoil the surprise.

But on Valentine’s Day Jim gave Carol a dozen long stem roses and a gift certificate for a day of pampering at her favorite day spa. The next day Carol searched high and low but the ring box could not be found.

She spent several sleepless nights trying to figure out what had become of the ring. Three weeks later Carol dropped by Jim’s office to meet him for lunch.

One of his co-workers was wearing a ring similar to the one in the box. It didn’t take Carol long to find out Jim and this woman were having an affair.

Laura’s Story

Laura found a gift box containing a sexy negligee in the trunk of her husband’s car. He tried to pass it off as a gift he purchased for her but the gown was several sizes too small.

No amount of persuasion on his part could convince Laura the salesclerk put the wrong size in the box by mistake. Especially since she had already found other telltale signs of a possible affair.

Other Telltale Signs of a Cheating Husband

Be suspicious if your husband receives an expensive gift of any kind this month. Especially if he claims to have purchased the item for himself, but can’t produce a charge slip or sales receipt.

Likewise, warning bells should sound if your husband receives a gift of an extremely personal nature, in February or at any other time. No woman other than yourself should be giving your husband silk boxer shorts — unless it’s his mother or his sister. (And even then, you should check to make sure.)

Take notice if your husband is missing for several hours on February 14th. Be wary if he invents excuses to come home late, or to run an errand later on, on Valentine’s night. These could be additional telltale signs.

-Ruth Houston

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Seduce Mr Right into your very own super sexy Valentine!

Ladies, lighten up in the bedroom.

I was watching Cougar Town the other day (yes I am embarrassed). Courtney Cox plays a woman who sleeps with the first guy after she is semi-recently divorced. She is rating the experience with her girlfriends and she admits to being not-quite-a-six in the bedroom!

It’s interesting to me because I would think we are all trying to be spectacular in the bedroom! Don’t we all want to be “the best ever” memory?

Sex is incredible important to all of us, but more so for men. If you want to seduce Mr Right, bring some game to the bedroom (seems overly obvious).

The book, “She Comes First” is an amazing guide for men. Absolutely loaded with precious information to make a man into a VERY skilled lover. It’s funny, but I have been with mediocre lovers and suggested the book (not directly in the you are crap in bed read this way, but still) and the lame lovers without fail show no interest in the book.

Are we as women doing the same thing?

Probably.

Things I have heard: “I am just up, down, up, down, bored to death waiting for him to cum.” “I fake it just to get it over with.” ” There is no point in Viagra. It’s just bang bang bang all about him anyway.” “I can do the tie-up thing. I just laugh.” “I couldn’t wear that.” “I could never use a vibrator.” “I have never masturbated.” “I can’t orgasm.” “Oral is gross.” “I hate cum. It’s disgusting.” “I hate that thing poking into my back.”

The attitude is off. Sex is FUN. Crazy. Wild. Open. Intense.

Do it all. Try it all.

What are you afraid of?

Women are afraid of men recoiling in horror as you try something new which turns out to be over-the-top whorish never to be looked at the same again. He won’t.

It’s all about attitude girls. Men love sex. All men. The porn industry isn’t in business because it is a repulsive turn off. And YOUR man ISN’T different. He will DIE if you try something fun and different.

Learn to give a slow and sexy blow job. Swallow. Why is that so challenging? Swallowing is approval and affirmation that you are in to him and adore everything about him. Spitting him out is spitting him out. The simple simple act of swallowing can take a not-quite-a-six blow job into a spectacular 10…at least that’s how he will remember it!

Wear what he likes! Some men are after pink and white ruffle girly girls and some men are after the red and black seductress. Most men want both.

The five senses are excellent sex toys. If you haven’t tried it, you are missing an intense experience. Anytime you take one sense out of the picture, the others are heightened. The act of blindfolding or being blindfolded is far more intense than it should be. The anticipation of unknown touch is thrilling and the graze of the hand becomes electric.

Wearing an iPod or having him wear one creates a similar dynamic. Chose the music he really likes or make a sexy play-list and put it on him. His attention can only be on the sensation your touch is providing. You can give him a sexy massage or go down on him…whatever you do will be intensified.

Wax candles are also an unusual experience. Jimmyjane has very sexy/classy candles that are designed for this and keep the wax at a slightly lower temp than the normal ones. The trick to candles is, again, anticipation. Hold the candle higher than might come naturally to give the wax a moment to cool a bit on the way down. A slow, sexy, thin drizzle is what you are looking for. Then massage it into his skin. The thrill of what is about to happen combined with the warmth of the wax and your touch, is highly pleasurable.

Jimmyjane is carried by W Hotels. I would consider them the La Perla of the sex game. If you are a  little shy to jump in to this kind of sex, Jimmyjane is sexy and elegant, making it easy to introduce. “Jimmyjane’s winning combo of elegance, clever detail, and superior construction encourages even prudish types to grab a piece of the pleasure pie.” – Time Out New York

Turn up the heat early. Learn how to play with seductive texting!

Wow. What a drag for the people who were using the site to really find someone. Can you imagine “flirting” with someone online who was nonexistent? Simply manufactured by the agency?

Don’t we have enough to worry about in online dating?!

Online dating agency ‘created fake profiles’
HELEN WESTERMAN
November 6, 2009 – 1:32PM

An online dating agency created fake profiles and used them to “flirt” with registered users, Australia’s consumer watchdog has revealed.

Redhotpie.com.au, which describes itself as a dating site for “singles and swingers”, has been accused of misleading conduct by the Australian Competition and Consumer Commission, for creating and publishing fictional profiles on its website.

The profiles were used to send “flirt” messages to registered users. The site claims to have more than 1.6 million members and features dating advice from author Bessie Bardot.

But the ACCC said the operators of redhotpie,Mark Semaan and Maxwell James McGuire, falsely represented that members could socialise with – and potentially meet – every profile that was viewable on the site, “when it was not the case”.

It does not reveal how many profiles may be fake.

A directions hearing has been set for December 10 in Perth’s Federal Court. Source: www.theage.com.au

Not too far behind is a site that personally I love (because it worked for me!), match.com. But I can say I see the point of those who are complaining.

Match.com Posts Fake Profiles, Man Sues For Humiliation

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One of the reasons some people are wary of online dating is that people tend to stretch the truth when describing themselves. Perhaps you can build up a BS detector for embellishments of electronic personalities, but what if the dating prospects were not even real?

That’s what happened to New Yorker Sean McGinn, who’s suing dating site Match.com for keeping around profiles of former users so that it would look like the site had far more romantic prospects than it did. McGinn is suing over deception, because he sent out many emails to profiles that were essentially dead. Match.com caused him “humiliation and disappointment,” and he wants to stop Match from hurting the feelings of singles “who feel rejected when their e-mails get no reply.”

For some people, it’s a big leap to start online dating, and knowing that you may be signing up for even more rejection (however genuine) is a total deterrent.

So aside from McGinn, I know plenty of people with horror stories about love and the laptop. What’s your best and worst online dating story?

I am a big fan of online dating. I think it is the most efficient way to find a match more compatible than you can find in a bar, grocery store, at work….

But these companies need to be careful about their practices. It’s easy enough to have your heart broken!

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Ever wonder why a profile that describes you perfectly isn’t getting noticed by guys you’re dying to hear from? It’s not because you’re not a catch—rather, it could be that your profile contains some tiny red flags that, while invisible to the female eye, make guys think twice about winking and saying hello. But luckily, there’s nothing a few simple tweaks can’t fix. So go ahead and comb your write-up for the no-no’s, and try these substitutes (trust us, guys find them irresistible!).

Profile problem #1: Creating a laundry list of the perfect guy’s traits
Of course, we all want someone who’s hot, rich, interesting, hilarious—the whole package, and it’d be foolish not to have a few must-haves for the guy you’d like to get to know better. But when a woman spends her introductory paragraph going on and on about who she’s hoping to date, it can scare off men who don’t feel they can live up to those expectations.

Guy-friendly alternative: List just two or three of the most important things you want in a mate, whether it’s financial security or a passion for going out on the town every weekend. Lest you think you’re lowering your standards, think about the happiest couples you know: When they first started dating, were they exactly ideal? Or, think about someone you’ve dated who was perfect on paper but lacked that spark to keep you coming back. In other words, what makes a match work is not always based on meeting that checklist in your head. Nix it from your profile, and watch the guys pour in—then take your pick!

Profile problem #2: A picture that doesn’t really show you at your best

Post a blurry shot online and guys will wonder what you’re trying to hide.

We all have a shot of ourselves that we love, regardless of the fact that it’s a little blurry, distant… or that you’re wearing sunglasses that hide your eyes or a huge comfy sweater that obscures your figure. That’s fine if you like it and feel free to keep it for the fond memories—post it in your profile, though, and guys will wonder what you’re trying to hide. “An obscured photo is as good as no photo,” says Roman Griffen, author of Internet Dating: Tips, Tricks, Tactics. “Men are suspicious of a shot where they can’t make you out and since they’re so visually oriented, they’ll just skip your profile if that first picture doesn’t look good.”

Guy-friendly alternative: Easy: Set your main photo to one that shows you at your best—and leaves nothing important to guesswork. It doesn’t matter if the background is boring—your goal in that first picture is just to present yourself as accurately (and positively!) as possible. It’s fine to include your beloved, more obscure photo in your secondary shots.

Profile problem #3: Going overboard in the “about me” section
We’ve all heard that old statistic about women using, oh, seventy billion words for every one that a man says, and the same is true online. While many men’s personal essays struggle to reach the 200-character minimum, many women only stop when they hit the 2,000-character max. Now, there’s nothing wrong with telling us as much about yourself as you can fit into an essay, but keep in mind that not all guys like reading a wall of

“Soul mate”… “Knight in shining armor”… men get skittish when they see this kind of poetic language.
text—and may be tempted to move on purely because they’re not in a reading mood.

Guy-friendly alternative: Absolutely share some basics, but save some details for later. Use anecdotes that tell your readers about the real you: “Okay, here goes: I guess that most of my friends would probably say I’m really nice,” uses up 16 words and reveals almost nothing; but “I once walked an old lady four blocks because she needed directions but didn’t speak English” is a memorable, kick-butt story to include, and just a few stories like that will turn a guy’s head.

Profile problem #4: Listing all your hobbies, including ones that turn off guys
So you absolutely love baking, sewing, flower arranging? All fine ways to spend your time. But remember, in your profile you’re trying to attract a romantic partner. “When you list your hobbies, you need to remember that your reader should appreciate them,” says Cherie Burbach, author of At the Coffee Shop: If You Thought E- Dating Was for Freaks and Weirdos, Read This Book.

Guy-friendly alternative: List hobbies that a guy might be glad to join in on himself. Even if you don’t have any current activities that could fit the bill, list something you’d like to do, like “I’ve always wanted to try kayaking.” Not only may you attract some cute kayak enthusiast, you’ll show that you’re open to new things—and that’s an attractive trait.

Profile problem #5: Harping on your exes
Plenty of profiles start with an explanation of why the person is now single. “Prove to me that men aren’t jerks” or “Where are the nice guys?” crop up. Think it’s smart to be honest about your romantic past? Wrong. “The number-one mistake I see people making online is talking about their exes,” says Liz Kelly, author of SMART Man Hunting. The problem isn’t that you’ve had a bad experience, it’s that spending precious profile space on the jerk makes you appear unready to move on.

Guy-friendly alternative: Any time you find yourself writing about your ex, flip it into a positive statement that doesn’t involve him. Turn “I moved here two years ago to be with my boyfriend but then he broke up with me” into “I’ve lived here for two years and still feel like I’ve barely scratched the surface of this city.” And why write “My last boyfriend seemed perfect until he turned into a liar” when you could say “The most important thing to me is finding a guy who isn’t afraid to reveal himself, warts and all”?

Profile problem #6: Using flowery, fairy-tale language
Soul mate. Knight in shining armor. These terms permeate women’s profiles, and yet it probably comes as no surprise that men get skittish when they see poetic language along these lines. “The bottom line is that everyone dating online is looking for their soul mate, so you don’t have to use terms like that,” says Griffen. “In fact, doing so makes guys feel like they’re a candidate, not just a date, and it turns the pressure way up.”

Guy-friendly alternative: Hold off on the lovey talk until you’re in love. Instead, describe what hanging out with you would actually be like: Do you love ordering a pizza and playing videogames on rainy Saturdays? Or do you make a point of hitting a trendy new bar or restaurant on weekends to keep things interesting? It’s details like these that will draw guys in—and get you one step closer to finding that soul mate you’re looking for.

Want to know the other side of the story? Read “Mistakes Guys Make“.

Laura Gilbert writes for Health, The Knot, Stuff, and Radar—and is proud to say she’s never once used the words “soul mate” or “knight” in her profile. Or in a face-to-face conversation, for that matter.

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