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Seducing Mr Right may be the goal, but sometimes you have to get rid of Mr Wrong.

If you have the uneasy feeling that your husband is having an extramarital affair, Valentine’s Day is the ideal time to confirm what you suspect. The Valentine’s Day gift he gives his mistress or the gift he receives from her in return, can provide you with proof of his infidelity.

If your husband has a lover he’s certain to buy her a Valentine’s Day gift; whether he receives one in return or not. This could prove to be his undoing. An observant wife can find valuable clues about her husband’s infidelity, if she knows what to look for and where to look.

He Has to Give His Mistress a Gift

A husband can get away with giving his wife a last-minute card and a hastily purchased box of chocolates. But it’s almost a sure bet that on Valentine’s Day, he’ll give his mistress a special gift. And it won’t be a cheap token of his affection. If he wants to stay in her good graces (and in her bed) he has to buy an impressive gift.

A Valentine’s Day gift suitable for a mistress will cost a cheating husband a nice piece of change. Regardless of whether he pays by cash, check or charge, there will usually be a paper trail. If you know what to look for and where to look, you’ll find evidence of his spending somewhere.

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What to Look For

Have there been any suspicious withdrawals from your bank accounts? Check the time period shortly before or after Valentine’s Day. What about unexplained ATM withdrawals around this time?

Check your credit card statements for the month of February. Call customer service and ask them to give you the most recent charges made on the account. Be alert for charges made at jewelry stores, women’s specialty stores, or boutiques, florists, day spas, restaurants and the like. Pay special attention to any charges made on February 14th.

Check your husband’s wallet, pockets, backpack, or briefcase for charge slips or store receipts. If you find evidence of gift items which you didn’t personally receive, it should sound a warning bell. If your husband didn’t give the gifts to you, who did he give them to?

Where Else to Look

Check various places in and around your home for hidden gifts — under the bed, in the back of a file cabinet or dresser drawer, on the back of the closet floor, or on a seldom used shelf.

Don’t forget to search the car too. Look underneath the seat, in the trunk, in the glove compartment and in the tire well.

If you find a hidden gift, don’t jump to conclusions unless it’s obvious the gift is not for you (too large, too small, a color or style that he knows you wouldn’t wear, or has another woman’s name attached).

If Valentine’s Day passes and you haven’t received the hidden gift (but it’s now gone), then it’s obvious that he gave the gift to someone else. Make it your business to find out who.

Carol’s Story

Shortly before Valentine’s Day, Carol found a box in her husband’s sock drawer containing a diamond and sapphire ring. She said nothing because she didn’t want to spoil the surprise.

But on Valentine’s Day Jim gave Carol a dozen long stem roses and a gift certificate for a day of pampering at her favorite day spa. The next day Carol searched high and low but the ring box could not be found.

She spent several sleepless nights trying to figure out what had become of the ring. Three weeks later Carol dropped by Jim’s office to meet him for lunch.

One of his co-workers was wearing a ring similar to the one in the box. It didn’t take Carol long to find out Jim and this woman were having an affair.

Laura’s Story

Laura found a gift box containing a sexy negligee in the trunk of her husband’s car. He tried to pass it off as a gift he purchased for her but the gown was several sizes too small.

No amount of persuasion on his part could convince Laura the salesclerk put the wrong size in the box by mistake. Especially since she had already found other telltale signs of a possible affair.

Other Telltale Signs of a Cheating Husband

Be suspicious if your husband receives an expensive gift of any kind this month. Especially if he claims to have purchased the item for himself, but can’t produce a charge slip or sales receipt.

Likewise, warning bells should sound if your husband receives a gift of an extremely personal nature, in February or at any other time. No woman other than yourself should be giving your husband silk boxer shorts — unless it’s his mother or his sister. (And even then, you should check to make sure.)

Take notice if your husband is missing for several hours on February 14th. Be wary if he invents excuses to come home late, or to run an errand later on, on Valentine’s night. These could be additional telltale signs.

-Ruth Houston

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Why do I find it so easy not to cheat?

Maybe I’m not very attractive, so my options are limited. Maybe I’m too jaded to go for the cheating opportunities. Maybe I still have some mental wounds lingering from when my dad temporarily moved out because he had met another woman. Maybe I’m too afraid that I’ve reached my sin quotient and one more big sin will keep me out of heaven.

Cheating is not a caught in the moment thing if you are really into your significant other, you miss them when you are not with them, you don’t look for a way to hurt or deceive them.

I am just now patching up a friendship with someone I was seeing while they had a boyfriend (that may make me a cheater). At different points she told me that she had broken up with her boyfriend, that they were back together, and that he was boring and I was fun. It was total confusion.

I told her she wasn’t being fair to herself, me, or him.

Finally, she said, “you just don’t understand, there are things you don’t know.” Thing is she’s been cheating on him for a couple of years with different guys, and he keeps taking her back.

So, are cheaters born cheaters, or do certain situations cause people to cheat? Probably a little bit of both. Here are some situations that make people cheat:

1. Bored
I’d say this is the most common reason that people cheat.It’s tough to keep that edge throughout a relationship. Things start off grand and then level off and then you both realize that it’s still real life. When you meet someone else, that inaugural excitement of a new relationship kicks back in.

2. Dependence
At first glance, cheating seems like independent behavior. It could be interpreted as doing what you want, when you want. But I would argue that cheating is a dependent behavior. A cheater is dependent because they are not strong enough to break up with their significant other in order to get with the new person.

3. Confusion
Sometimes life or a particular situation can get to you. When the perfect storm of confusion is going on in your head, you make mistakes.

4. Because They Let You
If any girl ever cheated on me, I’d break up with her immediately. Forgiving a cheater is putting up with it, and starts a vicious cycle. That person who cheated may lose respect for you and might continue to cheat-because they know they can get away with it, because you’ll continue to take them back.

5. Nurturing
If someone is mistreating you, then your first instinct is to get away from him or her. But sometimes it’s not that simple-maybe you are raising kids together. If you feel trapped in a bad relationship, it’s only natural that you will run to the open arms of a person who treats you well.

6. Revenge
This is quite simple- an eye for an eye. Cheat on them if they cheat on you. If they continuously hurt you or abuse you in some way, you do it to get them back.

7. Confirmation of Attractiveness
Sometimes when you’re in a long relationship, or if your significant other is taking you for granted, you begin to wonder if you’re still attractive. Perhaps, because you were out on the dating circuit, you felt more attractive when you were single. If you have an affair, you’ve proven that a new person can be attracted to you.

8. The Thrill
Some people just enjoy the thrill of cheating: running around secretly, risking getting caught, andcreating thrilling moments with a forbidden romance.

9. They Don’t Consider It Cheating, Even Though You Might
Relationships have that grey area, usually right before you become exclusive. He thinks date #4 is when you’re “together,” and you think date #2 is when you’re “together.” If you haven’t talked about exclusivity, someone may think they are well within their rights to see other people, even though the other person in the relationship may not.

I don’t understand why people don’t break up as soon as they have an urge to cheat. Is it natural to have temptation, or is temptation a sign that the relationship is losing its fire? What reasons would you add to this list, and do you disagree with any? If you’ve ever cheated, why did you do it? Could you forgive a cheater? If you are single, but seeing a person who is in a committed relationship, does that make you a cheater?
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Unfaithful. What Is It With Cheating Women?

Do Women Cheat?

Why does a woman cheat? Why does a seemingly happy, committed, family woman, mother, wife, busy with job, soccer, shopping, dinner, and vacations cheat?

Women begin and continue affairs for reasons that are different than men typically cheat. For a man, an affair can often be just that. Men compartmentalize better than women when it comes to these things. They may not even see one as related to another, they have the primary relationship and they engaged in a physical release. Not related. If a woman is tangled in an affair, you can bet the primary relationship is in real trouble.

A woman can be ignored, neglected, put down, and otherwise be disenchanted with a marriage for many years (many, many) and remain in the relationship for lots of reasons. She might throw herself into the kids and the satellite activities orbiting the kids. She might tell herself (and her friends) that he is not what she imagined and her life is no where near what she thought it would be, but who pays the price for that? Will she take the bullet and do her time, making the best of it? Or will she make the kids take the bullet for her? It can be difficult to see any other life possibilities and so she trys and trys to talk to her husband.

Husbands, at this juncture, are often rough and brutal with their words. The power is in the man’s hands, it has not yet shifted.

It’s very sad that as he sits in the window of ripe opportunity, he continues the cockiness and pushes her farther away. He has not yet realized he will lose her soon. He doesn’t care right now. When the time arrives that he supremely cares, the window is either closed or just barely cracked. Even at that point, he often engages in the most alienating behaviors that just shoves her heart out the door and another man into their bed. Once he finally sees all clearly, it is so over.

So why do women cheat? What happens to make her go from unhappy housewife to a woman who takes this pleasure and pain for herself? This is a giant leap, life altering and most certainly frowned upon by the PTA. Her friends won’t approve, and the communities of families are unbearably small. The baseball teams are comprised of all of the same kids and coaches for many years, they all grow together and know each other well. She will run into people she knows at the market, the kids school, the coffee shop. She won’t be invited to the pool parties anymore, the “family” stuff. Everyone will know her business and judge her. It becomes a bigger scandal than a husbands comparatively minor slap and tickle with the secretary. She brings her lover into a possible replacement position and she usually does it in a very in-your-face way.

Did you know that the majority of unfaithful women bring a lover into their home, into their marital bed?

This is not true of faithless men. The stereotype is that women cheat for love. I don’t think it is that simple, not just love. But married women do cheat for more.

Love is to man a thing apart; ’tis women’s whole existence.” Tennyson

Why Do Women Cheat?

1. EXCITEMENT AND ADVENTURE Affairs are filled with excitement: a new lover, the chemistry, the desire and anticipation, the secret meetings, intensity, the danger of getting caught. The novelty and forbidden aspect of it is an adventure. It is pretty much a guarantee that excitement and adventure will be intrinsic to an affair.
2. UNDERSTANDING AND COMPANIONSHIP People need to feel understood and want that understanding from their spouse. If a spouse hasn’t received that from their partner, there exists a standing vulnerability in the marriage. When that person finds a lover who gives her the understanding and companionship she seeks, it’s indeed a powerful draw.
3. ROMANCE/LOVE Real life can be short on “happily ever after”. Some individuals long for romance in their life. These men and women may have never have had romance, or they had it so long ago they have forgotten.  Receiving flowers, writing and having poems written for them, the care of candles and lingerie, hotel rooms with bubble baths, bottles of wine, and the hide-a-way lunches; these entangle the heart.
4. LUST/SEX If ever there is one factor which is assumed to drive an affair, this is it. For a number of men and women, this certainly exists as the primary reason. Men might be interested in more varied and exciting sex that they may imagine or know their wife will judge as perverted. Or they may be bi-sexual or gay. Women can be strongly drawn to the new lover and crave him in an intense physical way.
5. ONE-NIGHT STAND/OPPORTUNITY Curiosity is a factor, for many women and men often have one-night stands because the possibility exists–and the risks are minimal.
6. ATTENTION/ACKNOWLEDGMENT Attention and acknowledgment are generally thought of as components of self-esteem. They help to make a person feel desired, still marketable, something that may have disappeared some time ago at home. The importance of self-esteem cannot be underrated. Each of us needs to feel that he or she is a worthy person. Sadly, the affair may indeed begin their path to self-esteem. .
7. REVENGE/TIT FOR TAT The typical reason for revenge is that the spouse has had an affair and the other spouse feels some sense of justification to also have an affair, to get back at that spouse or even things up. The revenge does not have to be limited to payback for an affair. It can be payback for another mistreatment like being hit, financial control and degradation, basically anything that had her feeling utterly powerless. It is a way to regain power and declare independence.

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