If you have the uneasy feeling that your husband is having an extramarital affair, Valentine’s Day is the ideal time to confirm what you suspect. The Valentine’s Day gift he gives his mistress or the gift he receives from her in return, can provide you with proof of his infidelity.

If your husband has a lover he’s certain to buy her a Valentine’s Day gift; whether he receives one in return or not. This could prove to be his undoing. An observant wife can find valuable clues about her husband’s infidelity, if she knows what to look for and where to look.

He Has to Give His Mistress a Gift

A husband can get away with giving his wife a last-minute card and a hastily purchased box of chocolates. But it’s almost a sure bet that on Valentine’s Day, he’ll give his mistress a special gift. And it won’t be a cheap token of his affection. If he wants to stay in her good graces (and in her bed) he has to buy an impressive gift.

A Valentine’s Day gift suitable for a mistress will cost a cheating husband a nice piece of change. Regardless of whether he pays by cash, check or charge, there will usually be a paper trail. If you know what to look for and where to look, you’ll find evidence of his spending somewhere.

You DESERVE The Truth

What to Look For

Have there been any suspicious withdrawals from your bank accounts? Check the time period shortly before or after Valentine’s Day. What about unexplained ATM withdrawals around this time?

Check your credit card statements for the month of February. Call customer service and ask them to give you the most recent charges made on the account. Be alert for charges made at jewelry stores, women’s specialty stores, or boutiques, florists, day spas, restaurants and the like. Pay special attention to any charges made on February 14th.

Check your husband’s wallet, pockets, backpack, or briefcase for charge slips or store receipts. If you find evidence of gift items which you didn’t personally receive, it should sound a warning bell. If your husband didn’t give the gifts to you, who did he give them to?

Where Else to Look

Check various places in and around your home for hidden gifts — under the bed, in the back of a file cabinet or dresser drawer, on the back of the closet floor, or on a seldom used shelf.

Don’t forget to search the car too. Look underneath the seat, in the trunk, in the glove compartment and in the tire well.

If you find a hidden gift, don’t jump to conclusions unless it’s obvious the gift is not for you (too large, too small, a color or style that he knows you wouldn’t wear, or has another woman’s name attached).

If Valentine’s Day passes and you haven’t received the hidden gift (but it’s now gone), then it’s obvious that he gave the gift to someone else. Make it your business to find out who.

Carol’s Story

Shortly before Valentine’s Day, Carol found a box in her husband’s sock drawer containing a diamond and sapphire ring. She said nothing because she didn’t want to spoil the surprise.

But on Valentine’s Day Jim gave Carol a dozen long stem roses and a gift certificate for a day of pampering at her favorite day spa. The next day Carol searched high and low but the ring box could not be found.

She spent several sleepless nights trying to figure out what had become of the ring. Three weeks later Carol dropped by Jim’s office to meet him for lunch.

One of his co-workers was wearing a ring similar to the one in the box. It didn’t take Carol long to find out Jim and this woman were having an affair.

Laura’s Story

Laura found a gift box containing a sexy negligee in the trunk of her husband’s car. He tried to pass it off as a gift he purchased for her but the gown was several sizes too small.

No amount of persuasion on his part could convince Laura the salesclerk put the wrong size in the box by mistake. Especially since she had already found other telltale signs of a possible affair.

Other Telltale Signs of a Cheating Husband

Be suspicious if your husband receives an expensive gift of any kind this month. Especially if he claims to have purchased the item for himself, but can’t produce a charge slip or sales receipt.

Likewise, warning bells should sound if your husband receives a gift of an extremely personal nature, in February or at any other time. No woman other than yourself should be giving your husband silk boxer shorts — unless it’s his mother or his sister. (And even then, you should check to make sure.)

Take notice if your husband is missing for several hours on February 14th. Be wary if he invents excuses to come home late, or to run an errand later on, on Valentine’s night. These could be additional telltale signs.

-Ruth Houston

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Ladies, lighten up in the bedroom.

I was watching Cougar Town the other day (yes I am embarrassed). Courtney Cox plays a woman who sleeps with the first guy after she is semi-recently divorced. She is rating the experience with her girlfriends and she admits to being not-quite-a-six in the bedroom!

It’s interesting to me because I would think we are all trying to be spectacular in the bedroom! Don’t we all want to be “the best ever” memory?

Sex is incredible important to all of us, but more so for men. If you want to seduce Mr Right, bring some game to the bedroom (seems overly obvious).

The book, “She Comes First” is an amazing guide for men. Absolutely loaded with precious information to make a man into a VERY skilled lover. It’s funny, but I have been with mediocre lovers and suggested the book (not directly in the you are crap in bed read this way, but still) and the lame lovers without fail show no interest in the book.

Are we as women doing the same thing?

Probably.

Things I have heard: “I am just up, down, up, down, bored to death waiting for him to cum.” “I fake it just to get it over with.” ” There is no point in Viagra. It’s just bang bang bang all about him anyway.” “I can do the tie-up thing. I just laugh.” “I couldn’t wear that.” “I could never use a vibrator.” “I have never masturbated.” “I can’t orgasm.” “Oral is gross.” “I hate cum. It’s disgusting.” “I hate that thing poking into my back.”

The attitude is off. Sex is FUN. Crazy. Wild. Open. Intense.

Do it all. Try it all.

What are you afraid of?

Women are afraid of men recoiling in horror as you try something new which turns out to be over-the-top whorish never to be looked at the same again. He won’t.

It’s all about attitude girls. Men love sex. All men. The porn industry isn’t in business because it is a repulsive turn off. And YOUR man ISN’T different. He will DIE if you try something fun and different.

Learn to give a slow and sexy blow job. Swallow. Why is that so challenging? Swallowing is approval and affirmation that you are in to him and adore everything about him. Spitting him out is spitting him out. The simple simple act of swallowing can take a not-quite-a-six blow job into a spectacular 10…at least that’s how he will remember it!

Wear what he likes! Some men are after pink and white ruffle girly girls and some men are after the red and black seductress. Most men want both.

The five senses are excellent sex toys. If you haven’t tried it, you are missing an intense experience. Anytime you take one sense out of the picture, the others are heightened. The act of blindfolding or being blindfolded is far more intense than it should be. The anticipation of unknown touch is thrilling and the graze of the hand becomes electric.

Wearing an iPod or having him wear one creates a similar dynamic. Chose the music he really likes or make a sexy play-list and put it on him. His attention can only be on the sensation your touch is providing. You can give him a sexy massage or go down on him…whatever you do will be intensified.

Wax candles are also an unusual experience. Jimmyjane has very sexy/classy candles that are designed for this and keep the wax at a slightly lower temp than the normal ones. The trick to candles is, again, anticipation. Hold the candle higher than might come naturally to give the wax a moment to cool a bit on the way down. A slow, sexy, thin drizzle is what you are looking for. Then massage it into his skin. The thrill of what is about to happen combined with the warmth of the wax and your touch, is highly pleasurable.

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Meaning, I like to read the hot dating gurus for men and keep up on the tips and tricks the gurus are teaching the boys to use on us girls.

I was just reading an article by David DeAngelo. If you don’t know who he is, he is a dating guru who claims to have women wired down pat, a pro-dater and a teacher of the art. His pitch is that he is not that attractive, but still pulls women…lots of them. There is some truth to what he teaches and I am certain it works much of the time. But in reading his tips, it’s easy to see how some young bucks might get a hold of the information and really be jerks with it.

David DeAngelo

There is a difference between confidence and asshole arrogance. I am not sure the subtle differences can be taught.

Personally, I love a man who walks across a room with an air that tells everyone he is THE man in the room.

AND I am so not into being badgered by some 25 year old that thinks he can get somewhere with me by insulting me. The thing is, the moves are insulting if one does not have both the savvy confidence to pull it off.

My guess would be that even if David’s intentions are good, his teachings are used in a way that might not be great for women.

Today he discussed the topic in his newsletter. Read below:

The “Dark Side” Of Dating

Over the past few years, since I published my
book “Double Your Dating”… and since I’ve
had some “commercial” success… I’ve been
hearing more and more stories from my female
friends… and these stories are starting to
alarm me.

To explain where I’m coming from, let me
start with a story.

When I first made the decision to actually
LEARN how to become more successful with
women, I went out and did some serious
research.

I’m talking “book style” research here.

I went to the library, searched online, went
to live seminars, met dating “gurus”… and
generally tried to figure out if anyone
ELSE had spent the time to figure this stuff
out.

What I found was a “mixed bag” at best.

Some of the materials that I found sounded
good, some of the stuff sounded completely
ridiculous, and some sounded like it was
ethically sketchy and manipulative.

Now, I’m an experimenter. I’ll try just about
anything once.

And I did try ANYTHING.

One of the “mindsets” that I came across was
something that sounded VERY interesting to
me at the time.

It was the idea that a guy could make a woman
feel attraction and other sexual feelings for
him by saying things that contained “hidden
messages”… things that the woman would not
CONSCIOUSLY realize she was hearing… but
that would have the “desired effect” anyway.

On its face, this sounded rather manipulative,
but the rationalle was that it was just
“tapping into emotions that already existed”
inside of the woman… so it was “all good”.

So I tried some of this stuff.

Like I said, I’ll try anything.

My own experience was that this material very
rarely worked. And it was never CONSISTENT
for me.

Ultimately, I wound up feeling like this stuff
just wasn’t an ethical fit for me. It was a
little “over the edge” of being dishonest.

Everyone has their own sense of right and
wrong, and after trying these things, I found
that they didn’t work for me… in the sense
that I didn’t like myself more after doing or
saying them… and they didn’t FEEL right.

It’s funny, because now that I teach men how
to meet women, I get questions all the time
that start with things like “I don’t want to
use the things you teach because I don’t want
to be MANIPULATIVE with women”.

Ironic, really. Mostly because I think of the
things I teach as being NON-manipulative.

And one of the things that I’ve realized is
that being honest with yourself, and honest
with women makes you feel like a better
person inside.

And I think that the way you feel about
yourself determines so many things… from
your inner level of satisfaction with life…
to the level of trust others have for you when
they meet you.

As far as I’m concerned, the more CANDID and
HONEST you can be with yourself and others,
the more self-esteem and character you build
for the long-run.

I don’t want to start sounding like an ethics
professor or a philosopher, but let’s just say
that MORE HONEST is MORE BETTER.

BACK TO MY POINT…

The reason I tell you this story is because
the things that women have been telling me
lately are starting to really bum me out.

There are a lot of guys teaching various ways
to meet women right now… and some of them
are teaching dishonesty as a “main strategy”
with women.

And more and more guys I talk to are starting
to talk to me about very DARK ideas for meeting
women and getting dates.

Here’s the result…

I have one good female friend who recently
told me that she dated a guy a few times, and
that she recognized some “techniques” that he
was using with her.

She asked him STRAIGHT UP:

“Do you know who David DeAngelo is?”

His reply:

“No.”

Later, she went online and did a search using
his email address.

Jackpot!

She found that this particular guy was someone
who posted in underground newsgroups about his
conquests with women.

Here’s the good part:

As she was reading through his various online
posts, she found stories written detailing
everything about his experiences with HER.

Even her exact words from emails she had
written to him… copied and pasted for the
world to see.

And, as you can imagine, he know EXACTLY who
David D. was.

And my favorite part…

He detailed how he used various lines, words,
and techniques to DECEIVE my friend, along
with several other women.

ANOTHER ONE…

I have another female friend who is a very
social person… who meets a lot of people and
goes on a lot of dates.

A few times, she’s heard guys use phrases and
techniques that seem like they’ve obviosly
been learned from me… so she asks them about
it.

And guess what? Most of them DON’T OWN UP TO IT.

I mean, dude… it’s the 21st Century.

Women don’t care if you are working on learning
how to be better in this area of your life.

But they sure as hell care if you don’t have
the BALLS to be honest about it.

WHAT’S GOING ON HERE?

I have to say, I’m disappointed with this
current state of affairs.

More and more stories of guys using deliberate
lies and manipulation to get women into bed…

More and more stories of guys not being honest
with themselves and women, because they don’t
have the guts to take responsibility for their
lives…

It seems to me that some of us guys have taken
the idea of “learning cool tricks that help us
meet women” and let it turn into a kind of
“dark side” mindset of trickery, lies, and
outright deception.

It’s not cool.

You want to learn a cool new “pick up line”
or way to start a conversation… and try it
out a bunch of times in an evening, even
though it doesn’t feel “natural” to you?

Fine. Great, even.

Get outside your comfort zone, and have
some fun.

You want to learn how to use hypnotism and
other tricks to get women turned on without
them being “consciously aware” of it?

OK, I can find a way to make that one make
sense… as long as it’s done with a sense
of integrity and healthy boundaries.

You want to lie to women, make up stories
about who you are and your experiences in
life… not own up to the truth… and
generally sell your soul to get laid?

Sorry, but that’s way over the line, and it’s
sacrificing your character in order to
selfishly take advantage of another person.

And when it turns into PREYING on women in
order to fulfill your selfish needs, then I
think you’re a dark, egotistical coward…
who deserves whatever bad things may befall
you.

IN SHORT…

I am not a perfect person, and I don’t claim
to have never made a mistake in life… or
to never have had a sneaky or manipulative
thought… or never lied to someone.

But a mentor once taught me that something
CHANGES when you make the leap, and start
BEHAVING in dark ways… and then ACCEPTING
that type of thinking and behavior from yourself.

Further, I don’t think it’s NECESSARY to be
one of the “bad guys” in order to succeed
with women and succeed in life.

It’s OK to want to learn how to be more
successful with women.

It’s OK to study it, try new things, and
teach yourself this skill.

But I highly recommend that you stay honest,
you be up-front about what you’re doing with
women… and take responsibility for yourself
and your life.

I would honestly prefer that you not buy or
use any of my stuff if you’re planning to use
it in a dark, predatory way.

I realize that all of my friends who are into
marketing are going to tell me I’m stupid for
not closing this newsletter with a link to buy
my programs, but it doesn’t feel right. So if
you want to check them out, go find them on
your own.

I’ll talk to you in a couple of days.

David D.

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