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Seducing Mr Right may be the goal, but sometimes you have to get rid of Mr Wrong.

If you have the uneasy feeling that your husband is having an extramarital affair, Valentine’s Day is the ideal time to confirm what you suspect. The Valentine’s Day gift he gives his mistress or the gift he receives from her in return, can provide you with proof of his infidelity.

If your husband has a lover he’s certain to buy her a Valentine’s Day gift; whether he receives one in return or not. This could prove to be his undoing. An observant wife can find valuable clues about her husband’s infidelity, if she knows what to look for and where to look.

He Has to Give His Mistress a Gift

A husband can get away with giving his wife a last-minute card and a hastily purchased box of chocolates. But it’s almost a sure bet that on Valentine’s Day, he’ll give his mistress a special gift. And it won’t be a cheap token of his affection. If he wants to stay in her good graces (and in her bed) he has to buy an impressive gift.

A Valentine’s Day gift suitable for a mistress will cost a cheating husband a nice piece of change. Regardless of whether he pays by cash, check or charge, there will usually be a paper trail. If you know what to look for and where to look, you’ll find evidence of his spending somewhere.

You DESERVE The Truth

What to Look For

Have there been any suspicious withdrawals from your bank accounts? Check the time period shortly before or after Valentine’s Day. What about unexplained ATM withdrawals around this time?

Check your credit card statements for the month of February. Call customer service and ask them to give you the most recent charges made on the account. Be alert for charges made at jewelry stores, women’s specialty stores, or boutiques, florists, day spas, restaurants and the like. Pay special attention to any charges made on February 14th.

Check your husband’s wallet, pockets, backpack, or briefcase for charge slips or store receipts. If you find evidence of gift items which you didn’t personally receive, it should sound a warning bell. If your husband didn’t give the gifts to you, who did he give them to?

Where Else to Look

Check various places in and around your home for hidden gifts — under the bed, in the back of a file cabinet or dresser drawer, on the back of the closet floor, or on a seldom used shelf.

Don’t forget to search the car too. Look underneath the seat, in the trunk, in the glove compartment and in the tire well.

If you find a hidden gift, don’t jump to conclusions unless it’s obvious the gift is not for you (too large, too small, a color or style that he knows you wouldn’t wear, or has another woman’s name attached).

If Valentine’s Day passes and you haven’t received the hidden gift (but it’s now gone), then it’s obvious that he gave the gift to someone else. Make it your business to find out who.

Carol’s Story

Shortly before Valentine’s Day, Carol found a box in her husband’s sock drawer containing a diamond and sapphire ring. She said nothing because she didn’t want to spoil the surprise.

But on Valentine’s Day Jim gave Carol a dozen long stem roses and a gift certificate for a day of pampering at her favorite day spa. The next day Carol searched high and low but the ring box could not be found.

She spent several sleepless nights trying to figure out what had become of the ring. Three weeks later Carol dropped by Jim’s office to meet him for lunch.

One of his co-workers was wearing a ring similar to the one in the box. It didn’t take Carol long to find out Jim and this woman were having an affair.

Laura’s Story

Laura found a gift box containing a sexy negligee in the trunk of her husband’s car. He tried to pass it off as a gift he purchased for her but the gown was several sizes too small.

No amount of persuasion on his part could convince Laura the salesclerk put the wrong size in the box by mistake. Especially since she had already found other telltale signs of a possible affair.

Other Telltale Signs of a Cheating Husband

Be suspicious if your husband receives an expensive gift of any kind this month. Especially if he claims to have purchased the item for himself, but can’t produce a charge slip or sales receipt.

Likewise, warning bells should sound if your husband receives a gift of an extremely personal nature, in February or at any other time. No woman other than yourself should be giving your husband silk boxer shorts — unless it’s his mother or his sister. (And even then, you should check to make sure.)

Take notice if your husband is missing for several hours on February 14th. Be wary if he invents excuses to come home late, or to run an errand later on, on Valentine’s night. These could be additional telltale signs.

-Ruth Houston

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Unfaithful. What Is It With Cheating Women?

Do Women Cheat?

Why does a woman cheat? Why does a seemingly happy, committed, family woman, mother, wife, busy with job, soccer, shopping, dinner, and vacations cheat?

Women begin and continue affairs for reasons that are different than men typically cheat. For a man, an affair can often be just that. Men compartmentalize better than women when it comes to these things. They may not even see one as related to another, they have the primary relationship and they engaged in a physical release. Not related. If a woman is tangled in an affair, you can bet the primary relationship is in real trouble.

A woman can be ignored, neglected, put down, and otherwise be disenchanted with a marriage for many years (many, many) and remain in the relationship for lots of reasons. She might throw herself into the kids and the satellite activities orbiting the kids. She might tell herself (and her friends) that he is not what she imagined and her life is no where near what she thought it would be, but who pays the price for that? Will she take the bullet and do her time, making the best of it? Or will she make the kids take the bullet for her? It can be difficult to see any other life possibilities and so she trys and trys to talk to her husband.

Husbands, at this juncture, are often rough and brutal with their words. The power is in the man’s hands, it has not yet shifted.

It’s very sad that as he sits in the window of ripe opportunity, he continues the cockiness and pushes her farther away. He has not yet realized he will lose her soon. He doesn’t care right now. When the time arrives that he supremely cares, the window is either closed or just barely cracked. Even at that point, he often engages in the most alienating behaviors that just shoves her heart out the door and another man into their bed. Once he finally sees all clearly, it is so over.

So why do women cheat? What happens to make her go from unhappy housewife to a woman who takes this pleasure and pain for herself? This is a giant leap, life altering and most certainly frowned upon by the PTA. Her friends won’t approve, and the communities of families are unbearably small. The baseball teams are comprised of all of the same kids and coaches for many years, they all grow together and know each other well. She will run into people she knows at the market, the kids school, the coffee shop. She won’t be invited to the pool parties anymore, the “family” stuff. Everyone will know her business and judge her. It becomes a bigger scandal than a husbands comparatively minor slap and tickle with the secretary. She brings her lover into a possible replacement position and she usually does it in a very in-your-face way.

Did you know that the majority of unfaithful women bring a lover into their home, into their marital bed?

This is not true of faithless men. The stereotype is that women cheat for love. I don’t think it is that simple, not just love. But married women do cheat for more.

Love is to man a thing apart; ’tis women’s whole existence.” Tennyson

Why Do Women Cheat?

1. EXCITEMENT AND ADVENTURE Affairs are filled with excitement: a new lover, the chemistry, the desire and anticipation, the secret meetings, intensity, the danger of getting caught. The novelty and forbidden aspect of it is an adventure. It is pretty much a guarantee that excitement and adventure will be intrinsic to an affair.
2. UNDERSTANDING AND COMPANIONSHIP People need to feel understood and want that understanding from their spouse. If a spouse hasn’t received that from their partner, there exists a standing vulnerability in the marriage. When that person finds a lover who gives her the understanding and companionship she seeks, it’s indeed a powerful draw.
3. ROMANCE/LOVE Real life can be short on “happily ever after”. Some individuals long for romance in their life. These men and women may have never have had romance, or they had it so long ago they have forgotten.  Receiving flowers, writing and having poems written for them, the care of candles and lingerie, hotel rooms with bubble baths, bottles of wine, and the hide-a-way lunches; these entangle the heart.
4. LUST/SEX If ever there is one factor which is assumed to drive an affair, this is it. For a number of men and women, this certainly exists as the primary reason. Men might be interested in more varied and exciting sex that they may imagine or know their wife will judge as perverted. Or they may be bi-sexual or gay. Women can be strongly drawn to the new lover and crave him in an intense physical way.
5. ONE-NIGHT STAND/OPPORTUNITY Curiosity is a factor, for many women and men often have one-night stands because the possibility exists–and the risks are minimal.
6. ATTENTION/ACKNOWLEDGMENT Attention and acknowledgment are generally thought of as components of self-esteem. They help to make a person feel desired, still marketable, something that may have disappeared some time ago at home. The importance of self-esteem cannot be underrated. Each of us needs to feel that he or she is a worthy person. Sadly, the affair may indeed begin their path to self-esteem. .
7. REVENGE/TIT FOR TAT The typical reason for revenge is that the spouse has had an affair and the other spouse feels some sense of justification to also have an affair, to get back at that spouse or even things up. The revenge does not have to be limited to payback for an affair. It can be payback for another mistreatment like being hit, financial control and degradation, basically anything that had her feeling utterly powerless. It is a way to regain power and declare independence.

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