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Seducing Mr Right may be the goal, but sometimes you have to get rid of Mr Wrong.

If you have the uneasy feeling that your husband is having an extramarital affair, Valentine’s Day is the ideal time to confirm what you suspect. The Valentine’s Day gift he gives his mistress or the gift he receives from her in return, can provide you with proof of his infidelity.

If your husband has a lover he’s certain to buy her a Valentine’s Day gift; whether he receives one in return or not. This could prove to be his undoing. An observant wife can find valuable clues about her husband’s infidelity, if she knows what to look for and where to look.

He Has to Give His Mistress a Gift

A husband can get away with giving his wife a last-minute card and a hastily purchased box of chocolates. But it’s almost a sure bet that on Valentine’s Day, he’ll give his mistress a special gift. And it won’t be a cheap token of his affection. If he wants to stay in her good graces (and in her bed) he has to buy an impressive gift.

A Valentine’s Day gift suitable for a mistress will cost a cheating husband a nice piece of change. Regardless of whether he pays by cash, check or charge, there will usually be a paper trail. If you know what to look for and where to look, you’ll find evidence of his spending somewhere.

You DESERVE The Truth

What to Look For

Have there been any suspicious withdrawals from your bank accounts? Check the time period shortly before or after Valentine’s Day. What about unexplained ATM withdrawals around this time?

Check your credit card statements for the month of February. Call customer service and ask them to give you the most recent charges made on the account. Be alert for charges made at jewelry stores, women’s specialty stores, or boutiques, florists, day spas, restaurants and the like. Pay special attention to any charges made on February 14th.

Check your husband’s wallet, pockets, backpack, or briefcase for charge slips or store receipts. If you find evidence of gift items which you didn’t personally receive, it should sound a warning bell. If your husband didn’t give the gifts to you, who did he give them to?

Where Else to Look

Check various places in and around your home for hidden gifts — under the bed, in the back of a file cabinet or dresser drawer, on the back of the closet floor, or on a seldom used shelf.

Don’t forget to search the car too. Look underneath the seat, in the trunk, in the glove compartment and in the tire well.

If you find a hidden gift, don’t jump to conclusions unless it’s obvious the gift is not for you (too large, too small, a color or style that he knows you wouldn’t wear, or has another woman’s name attached).

If Valentine’s Day passes and you haven’t received the hidden gift (but it’s now gone), then it’s obvious that he gave the gift to someone else. Make it your business to find out who.

Carol’s Story

Shortly before Valentine’s Day, Carol found a box in her husband’s sock drawer containing a diamond and sapphire ring. She said nothing because she didn’t want to spoil the surprise.

But on Valentine’s Day Jim gave Carol a dozen long stem roses and a gift certificate for a day of pampering at her favorite day spa. The next day Carol searched high and low but the ring box could not be found.

She spent several sleepless nights trying to figure out what had become of the ring. Three weeks later Carol dropped by Jim’s office to meet him for lunch.

One of his co-workers was wearing a ring similar to the one in the box. It didn’t take Carol long to find out Jim and this woman were having an affair.

Laura’s Story

Laura found a gift box containing a sexy negligee in the trunk of her husband’s car. He tried to pass it off as a gift he purchased for her but the gown was several sizes too small.

No amount of persuasion on his part could convince Laura the salesclerk put the wrong size in the box by mistake. Especially since she had already found other telltale signs of a possible affair.

Other Telltale Signs of a Cheating Husband

Be suspicious if your husband receives an expensive gift of any kind this month. Especially if he claims to have purchased the item for himself, but can’t produce a charge slip or sales receipt.

Likewise, warning bells should sound if your husband receives a gift of an extremely personal nature, in February or at any other time. No woman other than yourself should be giving your husband silk boxer shorts — unless it’s his mother or his sister. (And even then, you should check to make sure.)

Take notice if your husband is missing for several hours on February 14th. Be wary if he invents excuses to come home late, or to run an errand later on, on Valentine’s night. These could be additional telltale signs.

-Ruth Houston

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Catch him cheating? Is he really cheating on you?

When I was in my late teens, I had a girlfriend who had been married for 10 years. As I sat in the passenger seat of her car, watching her juggle her coffee and drive a stick-shift, she told me that sometimes, when your husband cheats, it can get you to a place in the relationship that is better, stronger, and more honest than before. Suzanne was a stunningly beautiful woman married to a man that you wouldn’t have guessed was hers. Dan was not particularly attractive, not a good provider, and possessed a too quiet personality that made it pretty clear he was too good for the room, aloof. He had made a critical financial decision that left them in a shabby one bedroom rental while her sister, whose husband had been offered the same opportunity at the same time, but made the opposite decision lived a lifestyle of privilege. But Suzanne loved Dan crazy. She could not have been happier if he had made the correct financial decision, he was all she wanted. She had even gone as far to turn down a modeling contract that she had been offered (pursued) by a prestigious modeling agency because she felt it could have damaged their relationship. He was, with her whole heart, her total dream man. As an onlooker, it was a bit mystifying, but sometimes people have that private connection that stays private. And theirs was one.

One day her husband Dan came home from work and told her their marriage was over and they were to be divorced. She was devastated and tried diligently to find out why and what might be done to work on things. He wouldn’t say why and he refused to discuss working on anything. But there was nothing wrong, nothing to work on. They seemed happy to her. She brushed the conversation aside and continued for the next 6 months trying to be the wife she imagined he wanted and things were very strong, really good. So she cautiously approached the topic again and asked him if they were solid or if he still felt that way. He said that they were still to be divorced. She was beyond devastated and wildly confused. This time, she pushed and pushed and eventually he told her that after work one day he had been at a bar, picked up a woman, and cheated on Suzanne. Therefore, he concluded, their marriage was over.

That was the entire conversation, no questions, no details, and he moved out.

6 months later she was with a friend and saw him. Her friend could see how much she still loved him and said to her that it wasn’t a great idea to end a 10 year marriage without a conversation. They did talk. What she learned, what they learned, was that these things don’t just happen out of nowhere. He was feeling very inadequate and as if he was married to Mrs. Perfect, Bree VanDeCamp. The more perfect she became, the more it looked to the world like she was stooping down to be with him. He felt that. He daily say the success his brother in law brought to Suzanne’s sister. He saw the judgement of his father in law and the community. He imagined her to be a little arrogant in her perfection, or maybe she was to some extent. He saw her looking at him and expecting more, needing more, deserving more.

He felt hopeless. He cheated.

Years later they were joking around about the affair and she said, “Ah, I probably deserved it.” And he responded, “Nobody deserves that.”

That meant a lot to her, but she had played a part in the dance that brought them there. She valued her relationship and, through honest conversation, was able to see what she might have done differently to be sure that she did not convey to him he was the failure the world thought he was.

Things might have been different.

There are surely more dramatic stories to illustrate the point. But it had great impact on me at age 18. In marriage, it is really tough to make one person the guilty and one person the innocent. It is a dance with many steps that brings us to a place of mess. They only way out of that dance is to retrace your steps and see if there were a few you could have done differently.

There are many women who would have left Dan without a second thought. There are many who would have left him even before the adultery. But Suzanne wanted him and the only way to move forward with forgiveness is to own some of the wrong. You only have the power to change your own behavior. If you can put some of the blame on your own shoulders, you have more control. There is also a balance of crime, so to speak, in a relationship. If you can say, “Hey, I told him I hated him because______. That might have been as bad as him sleeping with her. Maybe we can call it even.”

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Now there is the kind of man (and woman for that matter) out there that is a straight up cheater. He is easily recognizable and once you are with him, he will cheat soon and often. Choosing a man like this is a rough road and it will be a terribly unhappy way to live your life. You will be suspicious, for good reason. You will want to go through his phone, e-mail, papers, wallet and why? Why? You know he is cheating. In my opinion, if you are at the place where you feel a strong desire to spy on him, there is enough wrong to leave without the “proof” you seek. But some people need that proof. Some men convince women they are crazy and jealous without reason. If you need your proof for your own sake, check out this information I found. This is a simple and fast way to find out right now. No more questions, no waiting 6 months to find out.

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Sexting tips? Flirtexting? Technology affects every part of our life so it should be no surprise that dating is one of them.

We are finding our date-able partners on-line and flirting plenty via e-mail. But if you search “sexting“, you are going to see it’s been tried and hung in the court of public opinion.

Sexy is Smart- Sexting Tips

Obviously no sexual activity, including sexting, is appropriate for minors. And yes, these messages and/or pics are easy to forward around. But why would you be sleeping with someone you can’t trust with something that simple and private. If you can’t trust him enough to send him a pic, maybe you shouldn’t be sleeping with him at all. Yes, the guy is out there that will secretly video-tape your encounter, but come on, are you worried about that when you are in bed with your partner? So, when we are talking about this, let’s assume you have done the screening, he has made the cut, and you are not playing with the perverted jerk who is electronically exploiting you.

My guess is these tryers and hangers of the sexting game have not been in the single world for a long time (and, uh, I also venture to guess they are not having a lot of bedroom fun in the married world either). Sexting is hot, fun, and if done well, torturous foreplay. At it’s lightest it can be flirty fun. At it’s heaviest it can be the equivalent of phone, or maybe more like cyber, sex.

Imagine your partner is in the middle of a busy typically troublesome workday and he receives a text from you telling him that your mind is lingering on some detail of last nights sex-capade. Very sexy.

This game is just like everything else in life, know the players, establish the relationship and what is appropriate or not, and act accordingly. I think it the initial “testing” to see if you have a partner that likes to play most compares to phone sex. Throw a little line out and see if he bites and, if so, how hard. If you are dating a person who thinks sex with the lights on is edgy stuff, take it easy and be careful not to offend. But even the guy who is having sex with the lights on is having sex. Try thinking “romantic” when you are pre-sexting him, send him flirty messages about his kisses (Your kisses are addicting. Wanting you.) and see where it goes.

You can have big fun if you find a playmate and make it part of your sex-game.

10 Sexting Tips

• Text a memory of your last encounter, or one that was particularly hot.

• Text a message telling him you are thinking naughty thoughts and ask him what he thinks you should do about that. This takes him to a sexual place, imagining what he wants to do, not just what he’s done.

• Tell him you are aching for him. Take it a step further and tell him, in detail, what you are fantasizing about.

• Take a sexy pic of yourself in lingerie (or 5 until you get it right and have one you  like enough to send!), send it to him and ask him why he is making you (or sometimes it’s hot to say “her”, as in “Why are you making her”) wait.

• Take a nude pic of yourself (or 30, you’re going to need a glass of wine) and tell him he is on your mind. Don’t be too critical. Remember, all women are beautiful and he finds you very sexy. If this is scary, you can always take one without your face in the photo.

• Take a picture of your bed and write something like, “Waiting for you to join me.” You could prop lingerie on it. Or two champagne glasses. Or rose petals on the bed.

• Send him a pic of something only the two of you would know is sexual. For instance, if you made love on the picnic table out back, send him a pic and tell him you cannot wait to picnic again.

• Snap a pic of a sex toy or lube.

• Buy a pair of sexy panties (or do this with the pair of your own he lusts the most after), take a pic of them without you in them and tell him you are wearing them right now.

• Find out what one of his fantasies is (hot cop, sexy nurse, Princess Leah, french maid, school girl), dress up and send him the pic.

• You can up it all the way and take a short video clip of something you might normally do in private.

Sometimes the hottest, sexiest things are the ones that don’t show or tell much, but send his mind racing. Letting his own imagination fill in the blanks will allow him to spark a mental image that he finds incredibly exciting.

Have fun with it, be creative.  Notice what words or pics make your partner particularly excited (everyone has a hot button) and use them. But, just like all thing sexual, if you use sexting too frequently, it loses the sexy naughtiness of it. So be careful to make it infrequent enough that it continues to be a surprise. There is something very enticing to us about the forbidden. If you can send him something that he feels he has to hide or sneak to the bathroom to look at, you are playing a hot sex-game that will have him looking for ways to get back to you asap.

Sexting is modern day tool that you can use to increase desire, all day foreplay. Part of creating and keeping a hot sex life is to keep the burners on low all the time. If you have to start from cold, it never gets as hot. So keep your foreplay fun and thread it into his day. He won’t be able to get enough of you!

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Unfaithful. What Is It With Cheating Women?

Do Women Cheat?

Why does a woman cheat? Why does a seemingly happy, committed, family woman, mother, wife, busy with job, soccer, shopping, dinner, and vacations cheat?

Women begin and continue affairs for reasons that are different than men typically cheat. For a man, an affair can often be just that. Men compartmentalize better than women when it comes to these things. They may not even see one as related to another, they have the primary relationship and they engaged in a physical release. Not related. If a woman is tangled in an affair, you can bet the primary relationship is in real trouble.

A woman can be ignored, neglected, put down, and otherwise be disenchanted with a marriage for many years (many, many) and remain in the relationship for lots of reasons. She might throw herself into the kids and the satellite activities orbiting the kids. She might tell herself (and her friends) that he is not what she imagined and her life is no where near what she thought it would be, but who pays the price for that? Will she take the bullet and do her time, making the best of it? Or will she make the kids take the bullet for her? It can be difficult to see any other life possibilities and so she trys and trys to talk to her husband.

Husbands, at this juncture, are often rough and brutal with their words. The power is in the man’s hands, it has not yet shifted.

It’s very sad that as he sits in the window of ripe opportunity, he continues the cockiness and pushes her farther away. He has not yet realized he will lose her soon. He doesn’t care right now. When the time arrives that he supremely cares, the window is either closed or just barely cracked. Even at that point, he often engages in the most alienating behaviors that just shoves her heart out the door and another man into their bed. Once he finally sees all clearly, it is so over.

So why do women cheat? What happens to make her go from unhappy housewife to a woman who takes this pleasure and pain for herself? This is a giant leap, life altering and most certainly frowned upon by the PTA. Her friends won’t approve, and the communities of families are unbearably small. The baseball teams are comprised of all of the same kids and coaches for many years, they all grow together and know each other well. She will run into people she knows at the market, the kids school, the coffee shop. She won’t be invited to the pool parties anymore, the “family” stuff. Everyone will know her business and judge her. It becomes a bigger scandal than a husbands comparatively minor slap and tickle with the secretary. She brings her lover into a possible replacement position and she usually does it in a very in-your-face way.

Did you know that the majority of unfaithful women bring a lover into their home, into their marital bed?

This is not true of faithless men. The stereotype is that women cheat for love. I don’t think it is that simple, not just love. But married women do cheat for more.

Love is to man a thing apart; ’tis women’s whole existence.” Tennyson

Why Do Women Cheat?

1. EXCITEMENT AND ADVENTURE Affairs are filled with excitement: a new lover, the chemistry, the desire and anticipation, the secret meetings, intensity, the danger of getting caught. The novelty and forbidden aspect of it is an adventure. It is pretty much a guarantee that excitement and adventure will be intrinsic to an affair.
2. UNDERSTANDING AND COMPANIONSHIP People need to feel understood and want that understanding from their spouse. If a spouse hasn’t received that from their partner, there exists a standing vulnerability in the marriage. When that person finds a lover who gives her the understanding and companionship she seeks, it’s indeed a powerful draw.
3. ROMANCE/LOVE Real life can be short on “happily ever after”. Some individuals long for romance in their life. These men and women may have never have had romance, or they had it so long ago they have forgotten.  Receiving flowers, writing and having poems written for them, the care of candles and lingerie, hotel rooms with bubble baths, bottles of wine, and the hide-a-way lunches; these entangle the heart.
4. LUST/SEX If ever there is one factor which is assumed to drive an affair, this is it. For a number of men and women, this certainly exists as the primary reason. Men might be interested in more varied and exciting sex that they may imagine or know their wife will judge as perverted. Or they may be bi-sexual or gay. Women can be strongly drawn to the new lover and crave him in an intense physical way.
5. ONE-NIGHT STAND/OPPORTUNITY Curiosity is a factor, for many women and men often have one-night stands because the possibility exists–and the risks are minimal.
6. ATTENTION/ACKNOWLEDGMENT Attention and acknowledgment are generally thought of as components of self-esteem. They help to make a person feel desired, still marketable, something that may have disappeared some time ago at home. The importance of self-esteem cannot be underrated. Each of us needs to feel that he or she is a worthy person. Sadly, the affair may indeed begin their path to self-esteem. .
7. REVENGE/TIT FOR TAT The typical reason for revenge is that the spouse has had an affair and the other spouse feels some sense of justification to also have an affair, to get back at that spouse or even things up. The revenge does not have to be limited to payback for an affair. It can be payback for another mistreatment like being hit, financial control and degradation, basically anything that had her feeling utterly powerless. It is a way to regain power and declare independence.

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