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Seducing Mr Right may be the goal, but sometimes you have to get rid of Mr Wrong.

If you have the uneasy feeling that your husband is having an extramarital affair, Valentine’s Day is the ideal time to confirm what you suspect. The Valentine’s Day gift he gives his mistress or the gift he receives from her in return, can provide you with proof of his infidelity.

If your husband has a lover he’s certain to buy her a Valentine’s Day gift; whether he receives one in return or not. This could prove to be his undoing. An observant wife can find valuable clues about her husband’s infidelity, if she knows what to look for and where to look.

He Has to Give His Mistress a Gift

A husband can get away with giving his wife a last-minute card and a hastily purchased box of chocolates. But it’s almost a sure bet that on Valentine’s Day, he’ll give his mistress a special gift. And it won’t be a cheap token of his affection. If he wants to stay in her good graces (and in her bed) he has to buy an impressive gift.

A Valentine’s Day gift suitable for a mistress will cost a cheating husband a nice piece of change. Regardless of whether he pays by cash, check or charge, there will usually be a paper trail. If you know what to look for and where to look, you’ll find evidence of his spending somewhere.

What to Look For

Have there been any suspicious withdrawals from your bank accounts? Check the time period shortly before or after Valentine’s Day. What about unexplained ATM withdrawals around this time?

Check your credit card statements for the month of February. Call customer service and ask them to give you the most recent charges made on the account. Be alert for charges made at jewelry stores, women’s specialty stores, or boutiques, florists, day spas, restaurants and the like. Pay special attention to any charges made on February 14th.

Check your husband’s wallet, pockets, backpack, or briefcase for charge slips or store receipts. If you find evidence of gift items which you didn’t personally receive, it should sound a warning bell. If your husband didn’t give the gifts to you, who did he give them to?

Where Else to Look

Check various places in and around your home for hidden gifts — under the bed, in the back of a file cabinet or dresser drawer, on the back of the closet floor, or on a seldom used shelf.

Don’t forget to search the car too. Look underneath the seat, in the trunk, in the glove compartment and in the tire well.

If you find a hidden gift, don’t jump to conclusions unless it’s obvious the gift is not for you (too large, too small, a color or style that he knows you wouldn’t wear, or has another woman’s name attached).

If Valentine’s Day passes and you haven’t received the hidden gift (but it’s now gone), then it’s obvious that he gave the gift to someone else. Make it your business to find out who.

Carol’s Story

Shortly before Valentine’s Day, Carol found a box in her husband’s sock drawer containing a diamond and sapphire ring. She said nothing because she didn’t want to spoil the surprise.

But on Valentine’s Day Jim gave Carol a dozen long stem roses and a gift certificate for a day of pampering at her favorite day spa. The next day Carol searched high and low but the ring box could not be found.

She spent several sleepless nights trying to figure out what had become of the ring. Three weeks later Carol dropped by Jim’s office to meet him for lunch.

One of his co-workers was wearing a ring similar to the one in the box. It didn’t take Carol long to find out Jim and this woman were having an affair.

Laura’s Story

Laura found a gift box containing a sexy negligee in the trunk of her husband’s car. He tried to pass it off as a gift he purchased for her but the gown was several sizes too small.

No amount of persuasion on his part could convince Laura the salesclerk put the wrong size in the box by mistake. Especially since she had already found other telltale signs of a possible affair.

Other Telltale Signs of a Cheating Husband

Be suspicious if your husband receives an expensive gift of any kind this month. Especially if he claims to have purchased the item for himself, but can’t produce a charge slip or sales receipt.

Likewise, warning bells should sound if your husband receives a gift of an extremely personal nature, in February or at any other time. No woman other than yourself should be giving your husband silk boxer shorts — unless it’s his mother or his sister. (And even then, you should check to make sure.)

Take notice if your husband is missing for several hours on February 14th. Be wary if he invents excuses to come home late, or to run an errand later on, on Valentine’s night. These could be additional telltale signs.

-Ruth Houston

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When you are in the business of seducing Mr. Right, YOUR Mr. Right, it’s really important to make sure you are up on the latest greatest of the opposing team.

Meaning, I like to read the hot dating gurus for men and keep up on the tips and tricks the gurus are teaching the boys to use on us girls.

I was just reading an article by David DeAngelo. If you don’t know who he is, he is a dating guru who claims to have women wired down pat, a pro-dater and a teacher of the art. His pitch is that he is not that attractive, but still pulls women…lots of them. There is some truth to what he teaches and I am certain it works much of the time. But in reading his tips, it’s easy to see how some young bucks might get a hold of the information and really be jerks with it.

There is a difference between confidence and asshole arrogance. I am not sure the subtle differences can be taught.

Personally, I love a man who walks across a room with an air that tells everyone he is THE man in the room.

AND I am so not into being badgered by some 25 year old that thinks he can get somewhere with me by insulting me. The thing is, the moves are insulting if one does not have both the savvy confidence to pull it off.

My guess would be that even if David’s intentions are good, his teachings are used in a way that might not be great for women.

Today he discussed the topic in his newsletter. Read below:

The “Dark Side” Of Dating

Over the past few years, since I published my
book “Double Your Dating”… and since I’ve
had some “commercial” success… I’ve been
hearing more and more stories from my female
friends… and these stories are starting to
alarm me.

To explain where I’m coming from, let me
start with a story.

When I first made the decision to actually
LEARN how to become more successful with
women, I went out and did some serious
research.

I’m talking “book style” research here.

I went to the library, searched online, went
to live seminars, met dating “gurus”… and
generally tried to figure out if anyone
ELSE had spent the time to figure this stuff
out.

What I found was a “mixed bag” at best.

Some of the materials that I found sounded
good, some of the stuff sounded completely
ridiculous, and some sounded like it was
ethically sketchy and manipulative.

Now, I’m an experimenter. I’ll try just about
anything once.

And I did try ANYTHING.

One of the “mindsets” that I came across was
something that sounded VERY interesting to
me at the time.

It was the idea that a guy could make a woman
feel attraction and other sexual feelings for
him by saying things that contained “hidden
messages”… things that the woman would not
CONSCIOUSLY realize she was hearing… but
that would have the “desired effect” anyway.

On its face, this sounded rather manipulative,
but the rationalle was that it was just
“tapping into emotions that already existed”
inside of the woman… so it was “all good”.

So I tried some of this stuff.

Like I said, I’ll try anything.

My own experience was that this material very
rarely worked. And it was never CONSISTENT
for me.

Ultimately, I wound up feeling like this stuff
just wasn’t an ethical fit for me. It was a
little “over the edge” of being dishonest.

Everyone has their own sense of right and
wrong, and after trying these things, I found
that they didn’t work for me… in the sense
that I didn’t like myself more after doing or
saying them… and they didn’t FEEL right.

It’s funny, because now that I teach men how
to meet women, I get questions all the time
that start with things like “I don’t want to
use the things you teach because I don’t want
to be MANIPULATIVE with women”.

Ironic, really. Mostly because I think of the
things I teach as being NON-manipulative.

And one of the things that I’ve realized is
that being honest with yourself, and honest
with women makes you feel like a better
person inside.

And I think that the way you feel about
yourself determines so many things… from
your inner level of satisfaction with life…
to the level of trust others have for you when
they meet you.

As far as I’m concerned, the more CANDID and
HONEST you can be with yourself and others,
the more self-esteem and character you build
for the long-run.

I don’t want to start sounding like an ethics
professor or a philosopher, but let’s just say
that MORE HONEST is MORE BETTER.

BACK TO MY POINT…

The reason I tell you this story is because
the things that women have been telling me
lately are starting to really bum me out.

There are a lot of guys teaching various ways
to meet women right now… and some of them
are teaching dishonesty as a “main strategy”
with women.

And more and more guys I talk to are starting
to talk to me about very DARK ideas for meeting
women and getting dates.

Here’s the result…

I have one good female friend who recently
told me that she dated a guy a few times, and
that she recognized some “techniques” that he
was using with her.

She asked him STRAIGHT UP:

“Do you know who David DeAngelo is?”

His reply:

“No.”

Later, she went online and did a search using
his email address.

Jackpot!

She found that this particular guy was someone
who posted in underground newsgroups about his
conquests with women.

Here’s the good part:

As she was reading through his various online
posts, she found stories written detailing
everything about his experiences with HER.

Even her exact words from emails she had
written to him… copied and pasted for the
world to see.

And, as you can imagine, he know EXACTLY who
David D. was.

And my favorite part…

He detailed how he used various lines, words,
and techniques to DECEIVE my friend, along
with several other women.

ANOTHER ONE…

I have another female friend who is a very
social person… who meets a lot of people and
goes on a lot of dates.

A few times, she’s heard guys use phrases and
techniques that seem like they’ve obviosly
been learned from me… so she asks them about
it.

And guess what? Most of them DON’T OWN UP TO IT.

I mean, dude… it’s the 21st Century.

Women don’t care if you are working on learning
how to be better in this area of your life.

But they sure as hell care if you don’t have
the BALLS to be honest about it.

WHAT’S GOING ON HERE?

I have to say, I’m disappointed with this
current state of affairs.

More and more stories of guys using deliberate
lies and manipulation to get women into bed…

More and more stories of guys not being honest
with themselves and women, because they don’t
have the guts to take responsibility for their
lives…

It seems to me that some of us guys have taken
the idea of “learning cool tricks that help us
meet women” and let it turn into a kind of
“dark side” mindset of trickery, lies, and
outright deception.

It’s not cool.

You want to learn a cool new “pick up line”
or way to start a conversation… and try it
out a bunch of times in an evening, even
though it doesn’t feel “natural” to you?

Fine. Great, even.

Get outside your comfort zone, and have
some fun.

You want to learn how to use hypnotism and
other tricks to get women turned on without
them being “consciously aware” of it?

OK, I can find a way to make that one make
sense… as long as it’s done with a sense
of integrity and healthy boundaries.

You want to lie to women, make up stories
about who you are and your experiences in
life… not own up to the truth… and
generally sell your soul to get laid?

Sorry, but that’s way over the line, and it’s
sacrificing your character in order to
selfishly take advantage of another person.

And when it turns into PREYING on women in
order to fulfill your selfish needs, then I
think you’re a dark, egotistical coward…
who deserves whatever bad things may befall
you.

IN SHORT…

I am not a perfect person, and I don’t claim
to have never made a mistake in life… or
to never have had a sneaky or manipulative
thought… or never lied to someone.

But a mentor once taught me that something
CHANGES when you make the leap, and start
BEHAVING in dark ways… and then ACCEPTING
that type of thinking and behavior from yourself.

Further, I don’t think it’s NECESSARY to be
one of the “bad guys” in order to succeed
with women and succeed in life.

It’s OK to want to learn how to be more
successful with women.

It’s OK to study it, try new things, and
teach yourself this skill.

But I highly recommend that you stay honest,
you be up-front about what you’re doing with
women… and take responsibility for yourself
and your life.

I would honestly prefer that you not buy or
use any of my stuff if you’re planning to use
it in a dark, predatory way.

I realize that all of my friends who are into
marketing are going to tell me I’m stupid for
not closing this newsletter with a link to buy
my programs, but it doesn’t feel right. So if
you want to check them out, go find them on
your own.

I’ll talk to you in a couple of days.

David D.

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A mind at peace, a mind centered and not focused on harming others, is stronger than any physical force in the universe.

Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into.

Anything you really want, you can attain, if you really go after it.

Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it's always your choice.

Begin to see yourself as a soul with a body rather than a body with a soul.

Conflict cannot survive without your participation.

Deficiency motivation doesn't work. It will lead to a life-long pursuit of try to fix me. Learn to appreciate what you have and where and who you are.

Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life.

Everything in the universe has a purpose. Indeed, the invisible intelligence that flows through everything in a purposeful fashion is also flowing through you.

Everything is perfect in the universe - even your desire to improve it.

Everything you are against weakens you. Everything you are for empowers you.

Freedom means you are unobstructed in living your life as you choose. Anything less is a form of slavery.

Go for it now. The future is promised to no one.

How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.

I cannot always control what goes on outside. But I can always control what goes on inside.

I think and that is all that I am.

If you are living out of a sense of obligation you are slave.

If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.

It is impossible for you to be angry and laugh at the same time. Anger and laughter are mutually exclusive and you have the power to choose either.

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Cook Yourself Thin Recipes Those of you familiar with my books know that I love to share my passion for great vegetarian and vegan cooking with easy, healthy recipes, from simple family meals to festive fare for holidays and entertaining. Seasonal produce, vegan baking, and kid- and teen-friendly food are all on the menu. Aside from simple and delicious recipes, Healthy Cooking Tips will help you set up a healthy pantry, make your kitchen more earth-friendly, plan meals, and much more. Vegetarian Nutrition provides info on protein, fiber, fats, calcium, and lots more need-to know topics to live a healthy veg lifestyle. Sometimes being a vegetarian seems no fun at all, especially on the weekend barbeque where everyone else is enjoying grilled sticks and many other grilled delicacies. But no more, before this weekend get yourself a new vegetarian cook book full of vegetarian recipes and enjoy as others are doing. Vegetarian cook books are a great way to enjoy vegetarian dishes which you never know existed. Vegetarian cook books are in general helpful for beginners who want to experiment with the vegetarian culinary but never know how to start with that. Now get mouth watering dishes right out of your kitchen and set the mood of parties and weekends. Before starting to purchase a vegetarian cook book understand what suits your taste buds as there are lot many vegetarian recipes which you could ever imagine. If beginner it is always better to start with the simple recipes than experimenting much with the culinary. The best way out is to understand your taste first and shortlist a few recipe cook books. It helps a lot to read the reviews and excerpts of such recipe cook books to make a choice.To start with cook book recipe experience we will share on recipe with the courtesy of cookbookclub. Vegetarian Lasagna Recipe Lasagna Noodles 10 ounce frozen chopped Broccoli 14 1/2 ounce Can Tomatoes 15 ounce Can Tomato Sauce 1 cup Chopped Celery 1 cup Chopped Onion 1 cup Chopped Grn/Sweet Red Pepper 1 1/2 teaspoon Dried Basil crushed * Bay leaves Clove garlic minnced Beaten Egg 2 cup Lo-fat Ricotta or Cottage Ch 1/4 cup Grated Parmesan Cheese 1 cup Shredded Mozzarella Cheese * or substitute 1/2 t dried Oregano for 1/2 t of the dried Basil Cook noodles and broccoli separately according to their package directions; drain well. Set aside. For sauce, cut up canned tomatoes. In a large saucepan stir together undrained tomatoes, tomato sauce, celery, green or sweet red pepper, basil, bay leaves, and garlic. Bring to boiling; reduce heat. Simmer, uncover, 20-25 minutes or till sauce is thick, stirring occasionally. Remove bay leaves. Meanwhile, in a bowl stir together egg, ricotta cheese, parmesan cheese, and 1/4 t pepper.Stir in broccoli. Spread about 1/2 cup of the sauce in a 13×9x2″” baking dish. Top with half the noodles, half of the broccoli mixture, and half of the remaining sauce. Repeat layers, ending with the sauce.Bake, uncovered, in a 350 deg F oven for 25 minutes; sprinkle with Mozzarella.Bake 5 minutes more or till heated through. Let stand 10 minutes before serving.