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Seduce Mr Right into your very own super sexy Valentine!

Ladies, lighten up in the bedroom.

I was watching Cougar Town the other day (yes I am embarrassed). Courtney Cox plays a woman who sleeps with the first guy after she is semi-recently divorced. She is rating the experience with her girlfriends and she admits to being not-quite-a-six in the bedroom!

It’s interesting to me because I would think we are all trying to be spectacular in the bedroom! Don’t we all want to be “the best ever” memory?

Sex is incredible important to all of us, but more so for men. If you want to seduce Mr Right, bring some game to the bedroom (seems overly obvious).

The book, “She Comes First” is an amazing guide for men. Absolutely loaded with precious information to make a man into a VERY skilled lover. It’s funny, but I have been with mediocre lovers and suggested the book (not directly in the you are crap in bed read this way, but still) and the lame lovers without fail show no interest in the book.

Are we as women doing the same thing?

Probably.

Things I have heard: “I am just up, down, up, down, bored to death waiting for him to cum.” “I fake it just to get it over with.” ” There is no point in Viagra. It’s just bang bang bang all about him anyway.” “I can do the tie-up thing. I just laugh.” “I couldn’t wear that.” “I could never use a vibrator.” “I have never masturbated.” “I can’t orgasm.” “Oral is gross.” “I hate cum. It’s disgusting.” “I hate that thing poking into my back.”

The attitude is off. Sex is FUN. Crazy. Wild. Open. Intense.

Do it all. Try it all.

What are you afraid of?

Women are afraid of men recoiling in horror as you try something new which turns out to be over-the-top whorish never to be looked at the same again. He won’t.

It’s all about attitude girls. Men love sex. All men. The porn industry isn’t in business because it is a repulsive turn off. And YOUR man ISN’T different. He will DIE if you try something fun and different.

Learn to give a slow and sexy blow job. Swallow. Why is that so challenging? Swallowing is approval and affirmation that you are in to him and adore everything about him. Spitting him out is spitting him out. The simple simple act of swallowing can take a not-quite-a-six blow job into a spectacular 10…at least that’s how he will remember it!

Wear what he likes! Some men are after pink and white ruffle girly girls and some men are after the red and black seductress. Most men want both.

The five senses are excellent sex toys. If you haven’t tried it, you are missing an intense experience. Anytime you take one sense out of the picture, the others are heightened. The act of blindfolding or being blindfolded is far more intense than it should be. The anticipation of unknown touch is thrilling and the graze of the hand becomes electric.

Wearing an iPod or having him wear one creates a similar dynamic. Chose the music he really likes or make a sexy play-list and put it on him. His attention can only be on the sensation your touch is providing. You can give him a sexy massage or go down on him…whatever you do will be intensified.

Wax candles are also an unusual experience. Jimmyjane has very sexy/classy candles that are designed for this and keep the wax at a slightly lower temp than the normal ones. The trick to candles is, again, anticipation. Hold the candle higher than might come naturally to give the wax a moment to cool a bit on the way down. A slow, sexy, thin drizzle is what you are looking for. Then massage it into his skin. The thrill of what is about to happen combined with the warmth of the wax and your touch, is highly pleasurable.

Jimmyjane is carried by W Hotels. I would consider them the La Perla of the sex game. If you are a  little shy to jump in to this kind of sex, Jimmyjane is sexy and elegant, making it easy to introduce. “Jimmyjane’s winning combo of elegance, clever detail, and superior construction encourages even prudish types to grab a piece of the pleasure pie.” – Time Out New York

Turn up the heat early. Learn how to play with seductive texting!

Wow. What a drag for the people who were using the site to really find someone. Can you imagine “flirting” with someone online who was nonexistent? Simply manufactured by the agency?

Don’t we have enough to worry about in online dating?!

Online dating agency ‘created fake profiles’
HELEN WESTERMAN
November 6, 2009 – 1:32PM

An online dating agency created fake profiles and used them to “flirt” with registered users, Australia’s consumer watchdog has revealed.

Redhotpie.com.au, which describes itself as a dating site for “singles and swingers”, has been accused of misleading conduct by the Australian Competition and Consumer Commission, for creating and publishing fictional profiles on its website.

The profiles were used to send “flirt” messages to registered users. The site claims to have more than 1.6 million members and features dating advice from author Bessie Bardot.

But the ACCC said the operators of redhotpie,Mark Semaan and Maxwell James McGuire, falsely represented that members could socialise with – and potentially meet – every profile that was viewable on the site, “when it was not the case”.

It does not reveal how many profiles may be fake.

A directions hearing has been set for December 10 in Perth’s Federal Court. Source: www.theage.com.au

Not too far behind is a site that personally I love (because it worked for me!), match.com. But I can say I see the point of those who are complaining.

Match.com Posts Fake Profiles, Man Sues For Humiliation

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One of the reasons some people are wary of online dating is that people tend to stretch the truth when describing themselves. Perhaps you can build up a BS detector for embellishments of electronic personalities, but what if the dating prospects were not even real?

That’s what happened to New Yorker Sean McGinn, who’s suing dating site Match.com for keeping around profiles of former users so that it would look like the site had far more romantic prospects than it did. McGinn is suing over deception, because he sent out many emails to profiles that were essentially dead. Match.com caused him “humiliation and disappointment,” and he wants to stop Match from hurting the feelings of singles “who feel rejected when their e-mails get no reply.”

For some people, it’s a big leap to start online dating, and knowing that you may be signing up for even more rejection (however genuine) is a total deterrent.

So aside from McGinn, I know plenty of people with horror stories about love and the laptop. What’s your best and worst online dating story?

I am a big fan of online dating. I think it is the most efficient way to find a match more compatible than you can find in a bar, grocery store, at work….

But these companies need to be careful about their practices. It’s easy enough to have your heart broken!

Match.com – Everyone knows someone who met on Match.com.

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David Letterman married Regina Lasko, his girlfriend of 23 years last Thursday.

Letterman said on the “Late Show” on Monday night, “On Thursday, at 3 p.m., March 19, 2009 at the Teton County Courthouse in Choteau, Montana, I was married to Regina Lasko.”

He told the audience, “Regina and I began dating in February of 1986, and I said, ‘Well, things are going pretty good, let’s just see what happens in about ten years.’”

He went on, “I had avoided getting married pretty good for, like, 23 years, and I…honestly, whether this happened or not…I secretly felt that men who were married admired me…like I was the last of the real gunslingers, you know what I’m saying?”

The day of the wedding he, Regina, and their son Harry got in a pickup truck to go to the courthouse and then things started to go awry. Letterman related the story: “We’ve got to drive into the courthouse and it’s muddy, and we’re supposed to be there at 2, and it’s me, Regina and Harry in the truck, in the pickup truck … So we get two miles from the house and we get stuck in the mud – I mean, turn the truck over, stuck in the mud.”

He walked two miles back to his home “into a fifty mile per hour wind,” and said that he thought to himself, “See, smart ass, see, see, you try to get married, this is what happens. See, well, you’ve got nobody to blame but yourself. Could have happened any other day, but you wait now, see, this is what you get.”

After he managed to get a different car to get back to his wife and son, he said, “So then we get in the car and Harry says, ‘Are we still going into town?’ and I said, ‘Yes, we are,’ and he gets very upset because mom had told him if I wasn’t back in an hour, the deal was off.”

There are two things that interest me about this story. First, women (and men) tend to rate external beauty as a prerequisite for dating/marrying a man like Letterman (wealthy, handsome, charismatic). Second, Letterman’s thinking of himself as “the last gunslinger” is interesting.

Regina’s physical appearance should be noteworthy to single women who think only the 20 year old beauties can snatch up the quality men. Regina is a normal woman with the normal beauty that we all possess. There is so much more than initial physical attraction that goes into the kind of attraction that holds a man for 23 years. There is a lot of information available that can guide a woman to the kinds of qualities that keep a man intrigued, and take him from single to committed. I read about these things daily, too much, and I like to share the ones I find particularly insightful.

Letterman’s “gunslinger” view of himself is an interesting slant on the “I don’t believe in the idea of marriage” kind of man. A man can view himself as a rogue rebel by withholding marriage. It can give him the enticing feeling of being a rule-breaker and blazing his own trail. A woman may decide that that’s okay and find her own way within those relationship parameters, like Regina Lasko did for so many years. You may be the kind of woman that enjoys a little rebellion in her man. But if that doesn’t suit and you would like to learn relationship skills that will have him insisting on committing to you formally, you will find the link below very useful.

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Sexting tips? Flirtexting? Technology affects every part of our life so it should be no surprise that dating is one of them.

We are finding our date-able partners on-line and flirting plenty via e-mail. But if you search “sexting“, you are going to see it’s been tried and hung in the court of public opinion.

Obviously no sexual activity, including sexting, is appropriate for minors. And yes, these messages and/or pics are easy to forward around. But why would you be sleeping with someone you can’t trust with something that simple and private. If you can’t trust him enough to send him a pic, maybe you shouldn’t be sleeping with him at all. Yes, the guy is out there that will secretly video-tape your encounter, but come on, are you worried about that when you are in bed with your partner? So, when we are talking about this, let’s assume you have done the screening, he has made the cut, and you are not playing with the perverted jerk who is electronically exploiting you.

My guess is these tryers and hangers of the sexting game have not been in the single world for a long time (and, uh, I also venture to guess they are not having a lot of bedroom fun in the married world either). Sexting is hot, fun, and if done well, torturous foreplay. At it’s lightest it can be flirty fun. At it’s heaviest it can be the equivalent of phone, or maybe more like cyber, sex.

Imagine your partner is in the middle of a busy typically troublesome workday and he receives a text from you telling him that your mind is lingering on some detail of last nights sex-capade. Very sexy.

This game is just like everything else in life, know the players, establish the relationship and what is appropriate or not, and act accordingly. I think it the initial “testing” to see if you have a partner that likes to play most compares to phone sex. Throw a little line out and see if he bites and, if so, how hard. If you are dating a person who thinks sex with the lights on is edgy stuff, take it easy and be careful not to offend. But even the guy who is having sex with the lights on is having sex. Try thinking “romantic” when you are pre-sexting him, send him flirty messages about his kisses (Your kisses are addicting. Wanting you.) and see where it goes.

You can have big fun if you find a playmate and make it part of your sex-game.

10 Sexting Tips

• Text a memory of your last encounter, or one that was particularly hot.

• Text a message telling him you are thinking naughty thoughts and ask him what he thinks you should do about that. This takes him to a sexual place, imagining what he wants to do, not just what he’s done.

• Tell him you are aching for him. Take it a step further and tell him, in detail, what you are fantasizing about.

• Take a sexy pic of yourself in lingerie (or 5 until you get it right and have one you  like enough to send!), send it to him and ask him why he is making you (or sometimes it’s hot to say “her”, as in “Why are you making her”) wait.

• Take a nude pic of yourself (or 30, you’re going to need a glass of wine) and tell him he is on your mind. Don’t be too critical. Remember, all women are beautiful and he finds you very sexy. If this is scary, you can always take one without your face in the photo.

• Take a picture of your bed and write something like, “Waiting for you to join me.” You could prop lingerie on it. Or two champagne glasses. Or rose petals on the bed.

• Send him a pic of something only the two of you would know is sexual. For instance, if you made love on the picnic table out back, send him a pic and tell him you cannot wait to picnic again.

• Snap a pic of a sex toy or lube.

• Buy a pair of sexy panties (or do this with the pair of your own he lusts the most after), take a pic of them without you in them and tell him you are wearing them right now.

• Find out what one of his fantasies is (hot cop, sexy nurse, Princess Leah, french maid, school girl), dress up and send him the pic.

• You can up it all the way and take a short video clip of something you might normally do in private.

Sometimes the hottest, sexiest things are the ones that don’t show or tell much, but send his mind racing. Letting his own imagination fill in the blanks will allow him to spark a mental image that he finds incredibly exciting.

Have fun with it, be creative.  Notice what words or pics make your partner particularly excited (everyone has a hot button) and use them. But, just like all thing sexual, if you use sexting too frequently, it loses the sexy naughtiness of it. So be careful to make it infrequent enough that it continues to be a surprise. There is something very enticing to us about the forbidden. If you can send him something that he feels he has to hide or sneak to the bathroom to look at, you are playing a hot sex-game that will have him looking for ways to get back to you asap.

Sexting is modern day tool that you can use to increase desire, all day foreplay. Part of creating and keeping a hot sex life is to keep the burners on low all the time. If you have to start from cold, it never gets as hot. So keep your foreplay fun and thread it into his day. He won’t be able to get enough of you!

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