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Seducing Mr Right- Top 10 Dating Mistakes You Need to Avoid

Have you watched Millionaire Matchmaker? It’s a show where a “matchmaker” sets up millionaire men who, it appears, cannot find dates on their own with attractive women.

At first glance, you think, “You’ve got to be kidding.” But watch the show. The funny thing is, you can nearly immediately figure out why they are single. There is typically some glaring flaw that the single millionaire doesn’t see in himself. As the viewer, it’s easy to see. The dating mistakes men make…

But that’s the benefit of NOT being the one on display. It’s easy to see the flaws in others, but we live with ourselves. We know why we do the things we do. We have REASONS why we do the things we do.

And sometimes these relationship mistakes are stopping us from getting what we really want.

In this case, Mr. Right.

The Top 10 Dating Mistakes to Avoid on Your First Date…(or many dates, actually)

1. Put Your Cell Away: And don’t look at it Everyone is very busy these days and he carved time out of his schedule to give you his attention (and probably buy you a meal). Give him the gift of your full attention. It’s incredibly rude to check your texts and voice mails, let alone take a call. It might not seem like it when YOU are the one on the phone, but let him do it to you and trust me, it’s going to be irritating.
2. The Ex-Factor: Um. Seems obvious, but you want to at least APPEAR available. If you go on about your ex you do yourself a disservice, actually several. Regardless of how obvious it seems to you that your ex is a jerk and did everything wrong, some of your blame WILL be obvious to the other person. We are all flawed and it’s fine once someone knows you enough to give you room for your screw-ups. But a first date is “best foot forward” time. Save the crazy for later. Secondly, it will look like he is still front of mind enough that he is your topic of conversation. Not what the new guy want to think.
3. Eat: Let your appetite be reflective of your appetite. Here’s why. Sensuality is wrapped up with lots of things, physicality, flirting, eye contact….food and drink are two on the list. I am NOT saying binge and PROVE you can match him drink for drink. I AM saying, be real. It works in your favor.
4. Drunk = Loss of Respect: Don’t think it’s “cool”. It’s the opposite. They MIGHT see you again, but you will never be in the “serious” category you will be in the “lay” category. A first date fumble like that is likely unrecoverable. And don’t throw up in his car. Also not hot.
5. Don’t Leave Your Brain at Home: Playing dumb is not sexy and adorable. It is dumb. Confidence is sexy. Bright is sexy. Humor is sexy. Oh my god I am so helpless and stupid show me everything because I am so frail is just pathetic. Pathetic is not sexy either. There are better ways to get attention. Be yourself and contribute to the experience. You’ll both have a better time.
6. My Children Are My Life: Really? Then stay home. You are not auditioning for mother. You are auditioning for position of  life partner. Let me point out that your kids are in your daily life for at most 20 years. If you are planning on living 80, you may want to pay attention to your significant other. There is no need to explain what the mother/child relationship entails. Everyone’s pretty up on that. Going out of your way to say, “Best case scenario, you’re coming in second.” doesn’t feel great to anyone. Leave the kids at home.
7. Be on Time: Waiting is painful. Again, does not look cool, fashionable, or anything good. You know what it looks like? Looks like you’re late and can’t get your cuss together to be on time. If you’re going for the whole flaky vibe, late works.
8. High Maintenance: Not good. What does that mean? It means don’t be difficult, rude, demanding. Don’t order the most expensive thing on the menu. Don’t be disappointed if he takes you for tacos. Don’t ask him what kind of car he drives. Do you really want him worrying about whether or not he can afford to take you out again? It’s your job to give yourself the lifestyle you want, not his. Don’t make him feel the financial burden of YOU on a date! Don’t go on about all of the amazing places other men have taken you/things they have bought you/how much $ they made/expensive cars you like and MY GOD don’t ask him to buy you anything. Seriously.
9. Nobody Wants to Sex Up Frump Girl/If You’re Showing Vag You’re Trying too Hard: So there is a lot of gray area in between the black and the white. Let’s see…be sexy, for sure. But UNDERSTATED sexy is best. What does that mean? Or better, what does that look like? It looks classy, but fitted, a little short, ABSOLUTELY high heels (this is not a PTA meeting), your BEST makeup including a smokey eye if you can do it right. I means you took care to get ready. It means you FEEL smokin’ hot (but not slutty).
10. Let Him Be the MAN: Aggressive and dominant don’t work on a first date (unless you’re being paid for it, but that’s a whole different blog). You might be Ms. Ball-buster career woman at work, and god knows it takes toughness to be a single mother running a household, but you are NOT at work and no one is negotiating their interest rate tonight. Be feminine and let him be masculine. Allow the process to flow naturally. Don’t steer it or push it. Don’t take the lead in a kiss. Don’t ask for a second date or even hint about it (it’s not subtle, it’s really not). You might offer to pay for your portion of the meal, but only offer once (he will 99% of the time decline), then graciously accept. Be thankful.

Have fun, be yourself, be polite, be thankful. Even if you don’t find that amazing spark, you will meet a lot of interesting people in your dating experience and your life will be richer for it.

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Seduce Mr Right into your very own super sexy Valentine!

Ladies, lighten up in the bedroom.

I was watching Cougar Town the other day (yes I am embarrassed). Courtney Cox plays a woman who sleeps with the first guy after she is semi-recently divorced. She is rating the experience with her girlfriends and she admits to being not-quite-a-six in the bedroom!

It’s interesting to me because I would think we are all trying to be spectacular in the bedroom! Don’t we all want to be “the best ever” memory?

Sex is incredible important to all of us, but more so for men. If you want to seduce Mr Right, bring some game to the bedroom (seems overly obvious).

The book, “She Comes First” is an amazing guide for men. Absolutely loaded with precious information to make a man into a VERY skilled lover. It’s funny, but I have been with mediocre lovers and suggested the book (not directly in the you are crap in bed read this way, but still) and the lame lovers without fail show no interest in the book.

Are we as women doing the same thing?

Probably.

Things I have heard: “I am just up, down, up, down, bored to death waiting for him to cum.” “I fake it just to get it over with.” ” There is no point in Viagra. It’s just bang bang bang all about him anyway.” “I can do the tie-up thing. I just laugh.” “I couldn’t wear that.” “I could never use a vibrator.” “I have never masturbated.” “I can’t orgasm.” “Oral is gross.” “I hate cum. It’s disgusting.” “I hate that thing poking into my back.”

The attitude is off. Sex is FUN. Crazy. Wild. Open. Intense.

Do it all. Try it all.

What are you afraid of?

Women are afraid of men recoiling in horror as you try something new which turns out to be over-the-top whorish never to be looked at the same again. He won’t.

It’s all about attitude girls. Men love sex. All men. The porn industry isn’t in business because it is a repulsive turn off. And YOUR man ISN’T different. He will DIE if you try something fun and different.

Learn to give a slow and sexy blow job. Swallow. Why is that so challenging? Swallowing is approval and affirmation that you are in to him and adore everything about him. Spitting him out is spitting him out. The simple simple act of swallowing can take a not-quite-a-six blow job into a spectacular 10…at least that’s how he will remember it!

Wear what he likes! Some men are after pink and white ruffle girly girls and some men are after the red and black seductress. Most men want both.

The five senses are excellent sex toys. If you haven’t tried it, you are missing an intense experience. Anytime you take one sense out of the picture, the others are heightened. The act of blindfolding or being blindfolded is far more intense than it should be. The anticipation of unknown touch is thrilling and the graze of the hand becomes electric.

Wearing an iPod or having him wear one creates a similar dynamic. Chose the music he really likes or make a sexy play-list and put it on him. His attention can only be on the sensation your touch is providing. You can give him a sexy massage or go down on him…whatever you do will be intensified.

Wax candles are also an unusual experience. Jimmyjane has very sexy/classy candles that are designed for this and keep the wax at a slightly lower temp than the normal ones. The trick to candles is, again, anticipation. Hold the candle higher than might come naturally to give the wax a moment to cool a bit on the way down. A slow, sexy, thin drizzle is what you are looking for. Then massage it into his skin. The thrill of what is about to happen combined with the warmth of the wax and your touch, is highly pleasurable.

Jimmyjane is carried by W Hotels. I would consider them the La Perla of the sex game. If you are a  little shy to jump in to this kind of sex, Jimmyjane is sexy and elegant, making it easy to introduce. “Jimmyjane’s winning combo of elegance, clever detail, and superior construction encourages even prudish types to grab a piece of the pleasure pie.” – Time Out New York

Turn up the heat early. Learn how to play with seductive texting!

Excuses Begone! is the HOT new book just released May 26, 2009 written by Dr. Wayne Dyer. Dr. Dyer is an internationally renowned author and speaker in the field of self-development. He is the author of more than 30 books, has created numerous audio programs and videos, and has appeared on thousands of television and radio shows. Wayne holds a doctorate in educational counseling from Wayne State University and was an associate professor at St. John’s University in New York.Within the pages of this transformational book, Dr. Wayne W. Dyer reveals how to change the self-defeating thinking patterns that have prevented you from living at the highest levels of success, happiness, and health. Even though you may know what to think, actually changing those thinking habits that have been with you since childhood might be somewhat challenging.

If I changed, it would create family dramas . . . I’m too old or too young . . . I’m far too busy and tired . . . I can’t afford the things I truly want . . . It would be very difficult for me to do things differently . . . and I’ve always been this way . . . may all seem to be true, but they’re in fact just excuses. So the business of modifying habituated thinking patterns really comes down to tossing out the same tired old excuses and examining your beliefs in a new and truthful light.

In this groundbreaking work, Wayne presents a compendium of conscious and subconscious crutches employed by virtually everyone, along with ways to cast them aside once and for all. You’ll learn to apply specific questions to any excuse, and then proceed through the steps of a new paradigm. The old, habituated ways of thinking will melt away as you experience the absurdity of hanging on to them.

You’ll ultimately realize that there are no excuses worth defending, ever, even if they’ve always been part of your life—and the joy of releasing them will resonate throughout your very being. When you eliminate the need to explain your shortcomings or failures, you’ll awaken to the life of your dreams.

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Dr Wayne Dyer Quotes:

A mind at peace, a mind centered and not focused on harming others, is stronger than any physical force in the universe.

Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into.

Anything you really want, you can attain, if you really go after it.

Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it's always your choice.

Begin to see yourself as a soul with a body rather than a body with a soul.

Conflict cannot survive without your participation.

Deficiency motivation doesn't work. It will lead to a life-long pursuit of try to fix me. Learn to appreciate what you have and where and who you are.

Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life.

Everything in the universe has a purpose. Indeed, the invisible intelligence that flows through everything in a purposeful fashion is also flowing through you.

Everything is perfect in the universe - even your desire to improve it.

Everything you are against weakens you. Everything you are for empowers you.

Freedom means you are unobstructed in living your life as you choose. Anything less is a form of slavery.

Go for it now. The future is promised to no one.

How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.

I cannot always control what goes on outside. But I can always control what goes on inside.

I think and that is all that I am.

If you are living out of a sense of obligation you are slave.

If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.

It is impossible for you to be angry and laugh at the same time. Anger and laughter are mutually exclusive and you have the power to choose either.

It makes no sense to worry about things you have no control over because there's nothing you can do about them, and why worry about things you do control? The activity of worrying keeps you immobilized.

Cook Yourself Thin Recipes Those of you familiar with my books know that I love to share my passion for great vegetarian and vegan cooking with easy, healthy recipes, from simple family meals to festive fare for holidays and entertaining. Seasonal produce, vegan baking, and kid- and teen-friendly food are all on the menu. Aside from simple and delicious recipes, Healthy Cooking Tips will help you set up a healthy pantry, make your kitchen more earth-friendly, plan meals, and much more. Vegetarian Nutrition provides info on protein, fiber, fats, calcium, and lots more need-to know topics to live a healthy veg lifestyle. Sometimes being a vegetarian seems no fun at all, especially on the weekend barbeque where everyone else is enjoying grilled sticks and many other grilled delicacies. But no more, before this weekend get yourself a new vegetarian cook book full of vegetarian recipes and enjoy as others are doing. Vegetarian cook books are a great way to enjoy vegetarian dishes which you never know existed. Vegetarian cook books are in general helpful for beginners who want to experiment with the vegetarian culinary but never know how to start with that. Now get mouth watering dishes right out of your kitchen and set the mood of parties and weekends. Before starting to purchase a vegetarian cook book understand what suits your taste buds as there are lot many vegetarian recipes which you could ever imagine. If beginner it is always better to start with the simple recipes than experimenting much with the culinary. The best way out is to understand your taste first and shortlist a few recipe cook books. It helps a lot to read the reviews and excerpts of such recipe cook books to make a choice.To start with cook book recipe experience we will share on recipe with the courtesy of cookbookclub. Vegetarian Lasagna Recipe Lasagna Noodles 10 ounce frozen chopped Broccoli 14 1/2 ounce Can Tomatoes 15 ounce Can Tomato Sauce 1 cup Chopped Celery 1 cup Chopped Onion 1 cup Chopped Grn/Sweet Red Pepper 1 1/2 teaspoon Dried Basil crushed * Bay leaves Clove garlic minnced Beaten Egg 2 cup Lo-fat Ricotta or Cottage Ch 1/4 cup Grated Parmesan Cheese 1 cup Shredded Mozzarella Cheese * or substitute 1/2 t dried Oregano for 1/2 t of the dried Basil Cook noodles and broccoli separately according to their package directions; drain well. Set aside. For sauce, cut up canned tomatoes. In a large saucepan stir together undrained tomatoes, tomato sauce, celery, green or sweet red pepper, basil, bay leaves, and garlic. Bring to boiling; reduce heat. Simmer, uncover, 20-25 minutes or till sauce is thick, stirring occasionally. Remove bay leaves. Meanwhile, in a bowl stir together egg, ricotta cheese, parmesan cheese, and 1/4 t pepper.Stir in broccoli. Spread about 1/2 cup of the sauce in a 13×9x2″” baking dish. Top with half the noodles, half of the broccoli mixture, and half of the remaining sauce. Repeat layers, ending with the sauce.Bake, uncovered, in a 350 deg F oven for 25 minutes; sprinkle with Mozzarella.Bake 5 minutes more or till heated through. Let stand 10 minutes before serving.

Calories range dramatically from cocktail to cocktail! Here are a few delicious drink suggestions to keep you on the light side.

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MOJITO (160 calories-15g sugar) vs. LONG ISLAND ICED TEA (700 calories-40g sugar) Skip the LIT and go for a Mojito. You’ll save 520 calories. COSMOPOLITAN (150 calories-12g sugar) VS. MARGARITA (500 calories-32g sugar) The typical Margarita is loaded with calories and sugar due to the sweet & sour mix. Try Baja Bob's Sugar Free Margarita Mix! He's getting rave reviews. Make your margarita low cal with Bob. BLOODY MARY (150 calories-10g sugar) vs. PINA COLADA (625 calories-75g sugar) Trade the sugary sweetness of the Pina Colada for the spice of the Bloody Mary and save 475 calories.

100 Calorie Sangria Sparkler Recipe

Prep: 10 minutes
Chill: 2 hours
Makes: 12 servings

750-milliliter bottle dry red wine
1 cup light orange juice
1/4 cup brandy or cognac
1/4 cup orange liqueur
2 tablespoons sugar
2 medium oranges, sliced
2 cups club soda, chilled
Crushed ice and/or orange peel curls (optional)

1. In a large pitcher, combine wine, orange juice, brandy, orange liqueur, sugar, and orange slices. Chill at least 2 hours. Add club soda before serving. Serve over crushed ice and/or with orange peel curls, if desired. Nutrition Information per serving: 100 calories, 0g protein, 9g carbohydrate, 0g fat (0g saturated), 0g fiber

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This is what the author, Teresa Howes, has to say about it:

How do we maintain or lose weight without giving up small pleasures in life like a night out on the town with the girls or a stiff martini after a long day at the office? That was the question that prompted me to begin looking at alcohol differently. Instead of trying to avoid it, I'd prefer to find ways to modify recipes and habits so I can still enjoy my favorites.

Hence the advent of SkiinnyTinis! I was so proud of my concoctions and revelations that I felt compelled to share them with the rest of the social drinkers who share my struggle. The recipes in this book have been tested, and users have rated them just as tasty as their high-calorie counterparts (if not tastier). The only difference? They have less than half the calories.

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