How to Catch Him Cheating on Valentine’s Day

Seducing Mr Right may be the goal, but sometimes you have to get rid of Mr Wrong.

If you have the uneasy feeling that your husband is having an extramarital affair, Valentine’s Day is the ideal time to confirm what you suspect. The Valentine’s Day gift he gives his mistress or the gift he receives from her in return, can provide you with proof of his infidelity.

If your husband has a lover he’s certain to buy her a Valentine’s Day gift; whether he receives one in return or not. This could prove to be his undoing. An observant wife can find valuable clues about her husband’s infidelity, if she knows what to look for and where to look.

He Has to Give His Mistress a Gift

A husband can get away with giving his wife a last-minute card and a hastily purchased box of chocolates. But it’s almost a sure bet that on Valentine’s Day, he’ll give his mistress a special gift. And it won’t be a cheap token of his affection. If he wants to stay in her good graces (and in her bed) he has to buy an impressive gift.

A Valentine’s Day gift suitable for a mistress will cost a cheating husband a nice piece of change. Regardless of whether he pays by cash, check or charge, there will usually be a paper trail. If you know what to look for and where to look, you’ll find evidence of his spending somewhere.

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You DESERVE The Truth

What to Look For

Have there been any suspicious withdrawals from your bank accounts? Check the time period shortly before or after Valentine’s Day. What about unexplained ATM withdrawals around this time?

Check your credit card statements for the month of February. Call customer service and ask them to give you the most recent charges made on the account. Be alert for charges made at jewelry stores, women’s specialty stores, or boutiques, florists, day spas, restaurants and the like. Pay special attention to any charges made on February 14th.

Check your husband’s wallet, pockets, backpack, or briefcase for charge slips or store receipts. If you find evidence of gift items which you didn’t personally receive, it should sound a warning bell. If your husband didn’t give the gifts to you, who did he give them to?

Where Else to Look

Check various places in and around your home for hidden gifts — under the bed, in the back of a file cabinet or dresser drawer, on the back of the closet floor, or on a seldom used shelf.

Don’t forget to search the car too. Look underneath the seat, in the trunk, in the glove compartment and in the tire well.

If you find a hidden gift, don’t jump to conclusions unless it’s obvious the gift is not for you (too large, too small, a color or style that he knows you wouldn’t wear, or has another woman’s name attached).

If Valentine’s Day passes and you haven’t received the hidden gift (but it’s now gone), then it’s obvious that he gave the gift to someone else. Make it your business to find out who.

Carol’s Story

Shortly before Valentine’s Day, Carol found a box in her husband’s sock drawer containing a diamond and sapphire ring. She said nothing because she didn’t want to spoil the surprise.

But on Valentine’s Day Jim gave Carol a dozen long stem roses and a gift certificate for a day of pampering at her favorite day spa. The next day Carol searched high and low but the ring box could not be found.

She spent several sleepless nights trying to figure out what had become of the ring. Three weeks later Carol dropped by Jim’s office to meet him for lunch.

One of his co-workers was wearing a ring similar to the one in the box. It didn’t take Carol long to find out Jim and this woman were having an affair.

Laura’s Story

Laura found a gift box containing a sexy negligee in the trunk of her husband’s car. He tried to pass it off as a gift he purchased for her but the gown was several sizes too small.

No amount of persuasion on his part could convince Laura the salesclerk put the wrong size in the box by mistake. Especially since she had already found other telltale signs of a possible affair.

Other Telltale Signs of a Cheating Husband

Be suspicious if your husband receives an expensive gift of any kind this month. Especially if he claims to have purchased the item for himself, but can’t produce a charge slip or sales receipt.

Likewise, warning bells should sound if your husband receives a gift of an extremely personal nature, in February or at any other time. No woman other than yourself should be giving your husband silk boxer shorts — unless it’s his mother or his sister. (And even then, you should check to make sure.)

Take notice if your husband is missing for several hours on February 14th. Be wary if he invents excuses to come home late, or to run an errand later on, on Valentine’s night. These could be additional telltale signs.

-Ruth Houston

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Seducing Mr Right into a Sexy Valentine’s Day

Seduce Mr Right into your very own super sexy Valentine!

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Ladies, lighten up in the bedroom.

I was watching Cougar Town the other day (yes I am embarrassed). Courtney Cox plays a woman who sleeps with the first guy after she is semi-recently divorced. She is rating the experience with her girlfriends and she admits to being not-quite-a-six in the bedroom!

It’s interesting to me because I would think we are all trying to be spectacular in the bedroom! Don’t we all want to be “the best ever” memory?

Sex is incredible important to all of us, but more so for men. If you want to seduce Mr Right, bring some game to the bedroom (seems overly obvious).

The book, “She Comes First” is an amazing guide for men. Absolutely loaded with precious information to make a man into a VERY skilled lover. It’s funny, but I have been with mediocre lovers and suggested the book (not directly in the you are crap in bed read this way, but still) and the lame lovers without fail show no interest in the book.

Are we as women doing the same thing?

Probably.

Things I have heard: “I am just up, down, up, down, bored to death waiting for him to cum.” “I fake it just to get it over with.” ” There is no point in Viagra. It’s just bang bang bang all about him anyway.” “I can do the tie-up thing. I just laugh.” “I couldn’t wear that.” “I could never use a vibrator.” “I have never masturbated.” “I can’t orgasm.” “Oral is gross.” “I hate cum. It’s disgusting.” “I hate that thing poking into my back.”

The attitude is off. Sex is FUN. Crazy. Wild. Open. Intense.

Do it all. Try it all.

What are you afraid of?

Women are afraid of men recoiling in horror as you try something new which turns out to be over-the-top whorish never to be looked at the same again. He won’t.

It’s all about attitude girls. Men love sex. All men. The porn industry isn’t in business because it is a repulsive turn off. And YOUR man ISN’T different. He will DIE if you try something fun and different.

Learn to give a slow and sexy blow job. Swallow. Why is that so challenging? Swallowing is approval and affirmation that you are in to him and adore everything about him. Spitting him out is spitting him out. The simple simple act of swallowing can take a not-quite-a-six blow job into a spectacular 10…at least that’s how he will remember it!

Wear what he likes! Some men are after pink and white ruffle girly girls and some men are after the red and black seductress. Most men want both.

The five senses are excellent sex toys. If you haven’t tried it, you are missing an intense experience. Anytime you take one sense out of the picture, the others are heightened. The act of blindfolding or being blindfolded is far more intense than it should be. The anticipation of unknown touch is thrilling and the graze of the hand becomes electric.

Wearing an iPod or having him wear one creates a similar dynamic. Chose the music he really likes or make a sexy play-list and put it on him. His attention can only be on the sensation your touch is providing. You can give him a sexy massage or go down on him…whatever you do will be intensified.

Wax candles are also an unusual experience. Jimmyjane has very sexy/classy candles that are designed for this and keep the wax at a slightly lower temp than the normal ones. The trick to candles is, again, anticipation. Hold the candle higher than might come naturally to give the wax a moment to cool a bit on the way down. A slow, sexy, thin drizzle is what you are looking for. Then massage it into his skin. The thrill of what is about to happen combined with the warmth of the wax and your touch, is highly pleasurable.

Jimmyjane is carried by W Hotels. I would consider them the La Perla of the sex game. If you are a  little shy to jump in to this kind of sex, Jimmyjane is sexy and elegant, making it easy to introduce. “Jimmyjane’s winning combo of elegance, clever detail, and superior construction encourages even prudish types to grab a piece of the pleasure pie.” – Time Out New York

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Online Dating Agency Created Fake Profiles!

Wow. What a drag for the people who were using the site to really find someone. Can you imagine “flirting” with someone online who was nonexistent? Simply manufactured by the agency?

Don’t we have enough to worry about in online dating?!

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Online dating agency ‘created fake profiles’
HELEN WESTERMAN
November 6, 2009 – 1:32PM

An online dating agency created fake profiles and used them to “flirt” with registered users, Australia’s consumer watchdog has revealed.

Redhotpie.com.au, which describes itself as a dating site for “singles and swingers”, has been accused of misleading conduct by the Australian Competition and Consumer Commission, for creating and publishing fictional profiles on its website.

The profiles were used to send “flirt” messages to registered users. The site claims to have more than 1.6 million members and features dating advice from author Bessie Bardot.

But the ACCC said the operators of redhotpie,Mark Semaan and Maxwell James McGuire, falsely represented that members could socialise with – and potentially meet – every profile that was viewable on the site, “when it was not the case”.

It does not reveal how many profiles may be fake.

A directions hearing has been set for December 10 in Perth’s Federal Court. Source: www.theage.com.au

Not too far behind is a site that personally I love (because it worked for me!), match.com. But I can say I see the point of those who are complaining.

Match.com Posts Fake Profiles, Man Sues For Humiliation

Thu, 06/11/2009 Source: GeekSugar

One of the reasons some people are wary of online dating is that people tend to stretch the truth when describing themselves. Perhaps you can build up a BS detector for embellishments of electronic personalities, but what if the dating prospects were not even real?

That’s what happened to New Yorker Sean McGinn, who’s suing dating site Match.com for keeping around profiles of former users so that it would look like the site had far more romantic prospects than it did. McGinn is suing over deception, because he sent out many emails to profiles that were essentially dead. Match.com caused him “humiliation and disappointment,” and he wants to stop Match from hurting the feelings of singles “who feel rejected when their e-mails get no reply.”

For some people, it’s a big leap to start online dating, and knowing that you may be signing up for even more rejection (however genuine) is a total deterrent.

So aside from McGinn, I know plenty of people with horror stories about love and the laptop. What’s your best and worst online dating story?

I am a big fan of online dating. I think it is the most efficient way to find a match more compatible than you can find in a bar, grocery store, at work….

But these companies need to be careful about their practices. It’s easy enough to have your heart broken!

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Now it’s your turn. Search Now! Online Dating Agency Created Fake Profiles!

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6 Profile Mistakes Women Make

Mistakes in your online dating profile will cost you. Make sure YOUR profile doesn’t have one of these!

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Getting the Profile Right is Critical

Want to get guys emailing you left and right? Purge your profile of these common problems—and try our more guy-friendly fixes.

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Ever wonder why a profile that describes you perfectly isn’t getting noticed by guys you’re dying to hear from? It’s not because you’re not a catch—rather, it could be that your profile contains some tiny red flags that, while invisible to the female eye, make guys think twice about winking and saying hello. But luckily, there’s nothing a few simple tweaks can’t fix. So go ahead and comb your write-up for the no-no’s, and try these substitutes (trust us, guys find them irresistible!).

Profile problem #1: Creating a laundry list of the perfect guy’s traits
Of course, we all want someone who’s hot, rich, interesting, hilarious—the whole package, and it’d be foolish not to have a few must-haves for the guy you’d like to get to know better. But when a woman spends her introductory paragraph going on and on about who she’s hoping to date, it can scare off men who don’t feel they can live up to those expectations.

Guy-friendly alternative: List just two or three of the most important things you want in a mate, whether it’s financial security or a passion for going out on the town every weekend. Lest you think you’re lowering your standards, think about the happiest couples you know: When they first started dating, were they exactly ideal? Or, think about someone you’ve dated who was perfect on paper but lacked that spark to keep you coming back. In other words, what makes a match work is not always based on meeting that checklist in your head. Nix it from your profile, and watch the guys pour in—then take your pick!

Profile problem #2: A picture that doesn’t really show you at your best

Post a blurry shot online and guys will wonder what you’re trying to hide.

We all have a shot of ourselves that we love, regardless of the fact that it’s a little blurry, distant… or that you’re wearing sunglasses that hide your eyes or a huge comfy sweater that obscures your figure. That’s fine if you like it and feel free to keep it for the fond memories—post it in your profile, though, and guys will wonder what you’re trying to hide. “An obscured photo is as good as no photo,” says Roman Griffen, author of Internet Dating: Tips, Tricks, Tactics. “Men are suspicious of a shot where they can’t make you out and since they’re so visually oriented, they’ll just skip your profile if that first picture doesn’t look good.”

Guy-friendly alternative: Easy: Set your main photo to one that shows you at your best—and leaves nothing important to guesswork. It doesn’t matter if the background is boring—your goal in that first picture is just to present yourself as accurately (and positively!) as possible. It’s fine to include your beloved, more obscure photo in your secondary shots.

Profile problem #3: Going overboard in the “about me” section
We’ve all heard that old statistic about women using, oh, seventy billion words for every one that a man says, and the same is true online. While many men’s personal essays struggle to reach the 200-character minimum, many women only stop when they hit the 2,000-character max. Now, there’s nothing wrong with telling us as much about yourself as you can fit into an essay, but keep in mind that not all guys like reading a wall of

“Soul mate”… “Knight in shining armor”… men get skittish when they see this kind of poetic language.
text—and may be tempted to move on purely because they’re not in a reading mood.

Guy-friendly alternative: Absolutely share some basics, but save some details for later. Use anecdotes that tell your readers about the real you: “Okay, here goes: I guess that most of my friends would probably say I’m really nice,” uses up 16 words and reveals almost nothing; but “I once walked an old lady four blocks because she needed directions but didn’t speak English” is a memorable, kick-butt story to include, and just a few stories like that will turn a guy’s head.

Profile problem #4: Listing all your hobbies, including ones that turn off guys
So you absolutely love baking, sewing, flower arranging? All fine ways to spend your time. But remember, in your profile you’re trying to attract a romantic partner. “When you list your hobbies, you need to remember that your reader should appreciate them,” says Cherie Burbach, author of At the Coffee Shop: If You Thought E- Dating Was for Freaks and Weirdos, Read This Book.

Guy-friendly alternative: List hobbies that a guy might be glad to join in on himself. Even if you don’t have any current activities that could fit the bill, list something you’d like to do, like “I’ve always wanted to try kayaking.” Not only may you attract some cute kayak enthusiast, you’ll show that you’re open to new things—and that’s an attractive trait.

Profile problem #5: Harping on your exes
Plenty of profiles start with an explanation of why the person is now single. “Prove to me that men aren’t jerks” or “Where are the nice guys?” crop up. Think it’s smart to be honest about your romantic past? Wrong. “The number-one mistake I see people making online is talking about their exes,” says Liz Kelly, author of SMART Man Hunting. The problem isn’t that you’ve had a bad experience, it’s that spending precious profile space on the jerk makes you appear unready to move on.

Guy-friendly alternative: Any time you find yourself writing about your ex, flip it into a positive statement that doesn’t involve him. Turn “I moved here two years ago to be with my boyfriend but then he broke up with me” into “I’ve lived here for two years and still feel like I’ve barely scratched the surface of this city.” And why write “My last boyfriend seemed perfect until he turned into a liar” when you could say “The most important thing to me is finding a guy who isn’t afraid to reveal himself, warts and all”?

Profile problem #6: Using flowery, fairy-tale language
Soul mate. Knight in shining armor. These terms permeate women’s profiles, and yet it probably comes as no surprise that men get skittish when they see poetic language along these lines. “The bottom line is that everyone dating online is looking for their soul mate, so you don’t have to use terms like that,” says Griffen. “In fact, doing so makes guys feel like they’re a candidate, not just a date, and it turns the pressure way up.”

Guy-friendly alternative: Hold off on the lovey talk until you’re in love. Instead, describe what hanging out with you would actually be like: Do you love ordering a pizza and playing videogames on rainy Saturdays? Or do you make a point of hitting a trendy new bar or restaurant on weekends to keep things interesting? It’s details like these that will draw guys in—and get you one step closer to finding that soul mate you’re looking for.

Want to know the other side of the story? Read “Mistakes Guys Make“.

Laura Gilbert writes for Health, The Knot, Stuff, and Radar—and is proud to say she’s never once used the words “soul mate” or “knight” in her profile. Or in a face-to-face conversation, for that matter.

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How Do I Get Him Back?



Q&A: How Do I Get Him Back?

This time I’m sharing a great question from
a reader.

It’s a question I get all the time from women
that points out a common misunderstanding women
have about men.

Reader:

Dear Christian,

I’m sorry but I need to ask you a
question. I need advice and help. Me and my
ex have been together off and on many times,
recently we just broke up and now he’s dating
someone else. (he doesn’t know what he wants)
But I know he still has very big feelings for me
and I want advice and help on getting him back.
Even though he’s dating someone right now, he
still has feelings for me, and I need help on
getting him back with me and not with her.

Please help!

Sincerely,
Needy and Hopeless

My Answer:

Thanks for writing, your email has about 147
great things here.

Let’s look at a few of them…

The first important issue is that you’re
ignoring all the important signs your ex is
giving you.

Men send a ton of silent “signals” that are
out there waiting for women to tune into and
pick up on.

And to learn from.

Some of these signals that men send are indirect
and unintentional – but others men know they’re
sending out.

Please don’t be naive.

Wake up!

Realize what’s going on here.

If he’s dating someone else, you’ve got to
start moving on.

That’s a direct and intentional signal.

He doesn’t share your feelings of wanting to
get back together in a committed relationship with
you.

If you challenge this idea, you need to recognize
something important…

That he’s not in the right place in his life to
share what you want with him.

What you really need for yourself is to find a
healthy way to take some of the focus off of him
and put it back on you and your life.

This doesn’t mean you have to go out and date right
now, but you need to take your mind off him.

I know it’s hard to do this when you still have
intense feelings for him.

But the simple truth is that you’re setting yourself
up for ALL KINDS of pain and disappointment…

Yeah, I’ve seen couples get back together
like this – but the odds are things don’t look
good for this old relationship.

The more you can distance yourself from your ex
whose dating another woman, the happier you’ll be.

Trust me.

And I know doing this is tough, but you’ve got to
do it if you’re going to find your way to a new and
improved situation – with or without him.

Here’s something else critical going on for you…

You’re making a lot of assumptions about HIS
feelings when you say “he has very strong feelings
for me.”

Do the math.

You know he’s dating someone else.

By thinking about how you believe he FEELS inside
is only keeping you stuck on him and your beliefs
about the good person he can be and how great things
COULD be together.

Let me put it another way-

What are his actions and behaviors saying?

If you listen to the signals your ex is sending
you, you’ll see that his “feelings” he shares are just
his way of holding onto you for his own comfort and
benefit.

Why wouldn’t he want to keep you around if he’s
“unavailable” to really commit – because being
with the other woman and still being connected to you
keeps him from being fully involved in any real situation
with either of you.

He’s already dating another woman.

That should give you a clear idea of where his
mind is at (not focused on getting back with you) and
what his “feelings” TRULY are.

Here’s what I want you to do first and foremost…

Think about making some decisions for YOURSELF.

Right now it sounds like your waiting for him to
make all the decisions.

Think about what YOU WANT to be happy, and remember
all the things your ex has done and said to let you
know he’s not committed to sharing his love with you.

If you give him and yourself some space, a funny
thing might happen you won’t expect…

Your ex-boyfriend won’t have the comfort of two
women who both want his affection.

He won’t know that you’re still there waiting for
him – and this will trigger thoughts and actions in him
that will ultimately help resolve your situation.

Until then…

For your own well-being, it’s important you
let him know he can’t keep sharing his intimate
feelings with you while he’s dating another woman.

HERE’S A RULE YOU NEED TO REMEMEBER:

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Never allow men who have “someone else” in their
life to keep sharing and expressing their feelings
for you.
****


It’s wrong on several levels… for you most of all.

When a man can have the affection of two women,
and he’s in a place where he’s emotionally
non-committed to either, odds are he will try to
keep this situation going for as long as possible!

Not all men would do this, but men who are
“unavailable”, as it sounds your ex is, can continue
multiple initimate situations at once.

You don’t want to date a man that’s in this place
in his life… and I know because I’ve been this guy
in my past!

NO AMOUNT of talking, experience or reasoning with
him can get him to feel the way you want him to feel.

You can’t change a man’s emotional depth and where
he’s at in his life.

“Getting him back” is a bad idea.

Rarely does this give you what you think you want.

It’s a losing battle, and you’re going to end up
being hurt or upset again as you undoubtedly keep
moving farther and farther away from what YOU ideally
want and closer and closer to whatever strange and
unhealthy situation he’s creating.

If you feel like you HAVE to see this through, then
be careful. You’re going against the odds.

Don’t be “that girl”.

And I promise that you’ll ruin your chances if
you think you can “convince” him to come back to you
through shows of affection, appeals to his desires
or other “gifts” to bribe him.

I’ve watched this EXACT thing unfold so many times.

IT DOESN’T WORK!

Instead, you should think about the times you’ve
broken up and the times you’ve seen that he wasn’t
personally ready for a relationship.

Those things are as real as the strong feelings
and emotions you feel that keeps you coming back.

Use the issues and challenges you had together
as a guide or a reminder of what’s keeping you two
apart now.

And once you start doing this, I think you’re
going to be strangely surprised at what starts to
happen for you…

Once your guy notices that he doesn’t have you
waiting around for him like a puppy dog to figure
it out, while he’s off doing god knows what with
other women, there’s going to be a big change in
his attitude and behavior.

It doesn’t make “sense”, but that’s how it WORKS.

****
THE CRITICAL SKILLS OF UNDERSTANDING MEN’S SIGNALS AND
IDENTIFYING GOOD MEN FROM “UNAVAILABLE TOADS”…
****

You’ve got to learn to understand and identify
“EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE” men.

If a man doesn’t know what he wants, he generally
doesn’t want what he’s got.

This may sound harsh, but it’s the truth of the
situation. And even when it isn’t completely true, it’s
a good rule to go by.

A good man who is the right person and wants to be
with you will find his own way to his “Emotional Truth”.

If his truth is that he wants to be with you, or not
be with you, you have to respect that.

But I see women do it all the time.

The guy will be sending all kinds of subtle
(or even direct) signs that he’s not “available” or
interested in something “serious”, but the woman ignores
them and just pays attention to the fact that he likes
being with her when they’re together.

In other words, she substitutes the physical connection,
or even the occasional emotional connection, for the
real relationship she wants to be in.

WRONG!

Men have a different “love equation” from women:

A strong connection does NOT necessarily equal any
interest in a relationship.

That’s why it’s CRITICAL that women learn to read
the signals that a man sends about where he’s at.

Because he’s surely not going to just lay it all out
there for you.

I promise.

If he does, write me an email, tell me all about it,
and give me his mailing address so I can send him his
prize.

When a guy isn’t interested in a relationship,
and he’s hdoing something like seeing other women, here’s
what most women start doing that makes things go from
bad to worse…

They start trying to “fix” things, and “fix” the guy.

And then comes the “convincing” behavior, trying to
convince the man that they are the right one for him,
and that because they have such a great connection, a
loving “relationship” is the only right way to go.

I know, it sounds bizarre.

Why would a man have a great woman and a great
connection with her that felt amazing when they were
together, and not want a relationship?

I’ll get to that later…

The thing I’m worried about here for you is that
in trying to get your guy back, you’re making these
mistakes that are like “man-repellent”.

So I’ll say it again.

You can’t convince a man to want to be with you.

I don’t know the specifics surrounding your
off-and-on with the ex, but it speaks volumes.

Especially when it’s combined with him not “knowing
what he wants”.

This is CLASSIC man-speak for “I’m not emotionally
available and I’m not ready for a real relationship”.

When he can’t get in touch with his feelings and
isn’t open to exploring them, it’s a text-book case of
unavailability.

I don’t mean that he can’t share feelings or some
level of intimacy with you…

In fact, I’m sure he still likes to connect with
you when things are easy-going and he’s not feeling
“pressure” around you.

But your ex sharing his feelings with you can
easily confuse you into thinking that he is potentially
the right guy and ready for a long term relationship.

I’m sure you’ve seen this since you’ve been back
and forth with him. But when a guy is unavailable,
he has a fear of getting deeper into a relationship
that he knows he’s not ready for.

In his own way he’s tried to tell you this several
times.

Here’s what he’s saying:

Yes, I have “feelings” for you.

And no… that doesn’t mean I want to be in a
relationship with you and be faithful.

Take some time to think about the past with your
ex, and then compare that to what will honestly
make YOU happy, and what kind of relationship you
want in your future.

If you’re honest about it with yourself, I don’t
think he’ll fit well into that based on his actions
and behavior.

Put more value on his actions, not his words.

Get back to the things that you enjoy, the places
you like to go and avoid places or things you used to
do or see with your ex.

Spend some time with your friends and give yourself
the space you deserve.

The less you talk about your ex and this situation for
now, the better off you’ll be.

And I think you’ll be amazed at the results.

First, I think you’ll just plain old feel better.

But even better than that, you’ll be breaking the
old connection that you had with your “x”.

And as counterintuitive as it sounds, breaking
out of your old connection is actually the thing
that’s going to change the situation for you the most
and help get you the results you want.

Right now, your convincing him and your wanting him
back, even when he’s with another woman, is making you
come off in all kinds of ways that men just don’t respond
well to.

I know it seems like the best idea to keep trying
to stay in touch with him and keep the connection
alive.

But the truth is that you’re just keeping this same
old situation alive by pumping your time and attention
into it.

If instead, you step back and stop chasing him or
trying to convince him you’re the right woman, you’ll
have an opportunity to do something that can honestly
be ATTRACTIVE to him-

You first leave a space that he’ll not recognize
and not understand, which will first get him thinking
about you and then wondering why you aren’t acting the
way you used to.

Men love “new” things and curiosities.

Plus, you’ll also be able to give him the space
he’s tried asking you for in his retarded emotioanally
unavailable “man-speak”.

Something funny happens when a man gets the space
he asked for-

If you do it in the right way, he’s forced to deal
with himself and his own feelings to figure out that
all the things he is worried about, afraid of, fearful
of “committing to”, etc.

And being by himself, he’ll see that these things
are really just in his own mind – and not bad things
about YOU.

In other words – he won’t keep taking all the old
“stuff” from the past that wasn’t working and keep
identifying it with YOU.

But you’ve to go know the way to “re-wire” the
connection once you’ve broken the old one.

And if you can do this, I guarantee he’ll come
calling wondering about you.

In my ebook, “Catch Him And Keep Him”, I spell
out specific ways to communicate with men that will
help you build that new connection.

There are several psychological and behavioral
“keys” that will help to open a man up.

And just as important, they will make him feel
that electric spark of ATTRACTION with you again.

I’m talking about the kind of attraction that
gets a guy feeling, at a deep level, that he wants to
be with you right now AND far into the future.

This goes for the “unavailable” guys too that seem
to keep withdrawing and don’t communicate much about
their feelings or what they want.

These guys are the toughest ones.

If there’s just ONE PIECE OF ADVICE that holds more
power for women than any other when it comes to men, it’s
this concept of only dating emotionally available men.

In my ebook, I also talk about how to identify good
men from the “unavailable” ones.

If you’re dating, wouldn’t it be great to know what
kind of guy you’re dealing with FROM THE START?

And if think you’re already got an unavailable guy
on your hands, and you’re wondering what you can do after
all the frustrating disappointments that have gone on…

There’s AN ENTIRE SECTION of the book dedicated to
helping you both understand the emotional world of a
man (yikes, right!) and how to lead him to a better way
of being with and understanding you.

So make the choice to do something about your love-
life and create the situation you want in your life.

Go check out my ebook now.

You can download it and be reading it in just a
couple of minutes.

Check it out here:

Thanks for reading and best of luck in life and love.

Your Friend,

Christian Carter




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“Catch Him And Keep Him” and “Christian Carter”
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